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Shopping with children. It's not easy, I don't need your dirty looks.

Posted by danibanani, 23 May 2015 · 899 views

Today at Walmart, I went shopping with both of my kids. My oldest has ADHD and I have gone without medicating her since she is only five, and she may grow out of it. Change of diet is what has helped, but days are still really tough with her. It also doesn't help living with mental illness yourself, to keep your cool and not turn into a raging psychopath, because I already feel like I am at times to begin with.

So she's sitting in the bottom part of the cart, while her brother is sitting in the part you're actually meant to sit in. She's jumping and jumping, which I corrected that. That was the easy part. She gets distracted so easily and can't focus on one thing for more than 2 minutes and I knew it was going to be a huge hassle to go shopping, but what has to be done, has to be done. The amount of times I had to tell her no to a certain item, was extremely high this time. It's usually only a couple of times I have to remind her that she doesn't get a treat or a toy every time we go out. Once in a while, I want her to learn that in life, you don't always get what you want when you want, and when you do get what you want, it's a wonderful feeling. She's learning.

Today, she was just full of attitude and sauce, that I almost left the store. I have done it before, left my shopping cart full and walked out, almost in tears because I feel like a failure of a mother, not being able to control her children.

Not today though. I planned on sticking it out and being a tough cookie today, and that's just what I did.

I heard comments from other sides of the aisles, about how I need to teach my children how to behave in public places, or that I am too young to have kids and this is why they aren't listening to me. I got numerous dirty looks. I could have given those looks right back, or said something to those other shoppers that kept making comments about my parenting.

I try to show to my children, that even when others are trying to bring you down, and making you feel worthless or feel like you're not doing good enough, that as long as you smile, and keep your chin up, you can do anything and it doesn't matter what anyone thinks about you, as long as you love you, you're doing it right and everyone else can keep their negativity.



Go Danimom!

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May 23 2015 07:24 PM

You go girl! Your children will be proud to have a mom like you. :)

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Pretend I gave you an up vote! Its there in essence. :p

Thats a great message to show your kids!

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Inspiring read. Don't listen to those other people, sounds like you're doing a great job, and actually trying to teach them stuff which will help :)

If you don't mind me asking, how old are your kids?

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I know the feeling, having 3 kids myself at a pretty young age. Keep on being the best influence you can be for them. Also, I was diagnosed with ADD when I was in the 5th grade, was medicated for a few years and although it helped me focus, it sucked the life and personality out of me. At such a young age that is devastating, I lost my sense of wonder and imagination and refused to eat or sleep. I stopped taking them by choice in Highschool, graduated just fine and I think I must have grown out of it because I have no issues with my focus at all these days and can multitask like a badass Mom.

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People are quick to judge. They will never have the full story. You keep doing you. You sound like you're doing a really awesome job. It may seem hard now but it will all pay off.

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You guys are all really wonderful. :) I hope one day they'll be proud of me. My oldest is 5, and my other one is going to be 3 this summer. My oldest, she was diagnosed with ADHD when she was 2, how I cannot imagine. Every 2 year old has an extreme amount of energy lol. Also doesn't help that I hardly ever wear makeup, and without it, I look 15, with two kids haha.

 

I'm an unmedicated bipolar mama, and I'm doing just fine. I was on meds for some time when I was 13, 14, and 15, but I stopped taking them as soon as I found out I was pregnant at 16 against the wishes of my doctor. BUT I didn't want to keep on taking anything while growing a little human, and I've been fine since. I have my moments still but if I can do it, so can my child.

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You guys are all really wonderful. :) I hope one day they'll be proud of me. My oldest is 5, and my other one is going to be 3 this summer. My oldest, she was diagnosed with ADHD when she was 2, how I cannot imagine. Every 2 year old has an extreme amount of energy lol. Also doesn't help that I hardly ever wear makeup, and without it, I look 15, with two kids haha.

 

I'm an unmedicated bipolar mama, and I'm doing just fine. I was on meds for some time when I was 13, 14, and 15, but I stopped taking them as soon as I found out I was pregnant at 16 against the wishes of my doctor. BUT I didn't want to keep on taking anything while growing a little human, and I've been fine since. I have my moments still but if I can do it, so can my child.

These days ADD and ADHD are SO over diagnosed anyway. 

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