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There are many stereotypes out there. Especially when dealing with race.
Gay men are promiscuous.
It doesn't matter if you're Black, White, Asian, Native American or whatever. If you're a gay male, you sleep around.
This is my opinion as to why (this might not apply so much to Europeans, but I think it holds true to most other places):
When is the first time people first start discovering their preferences? In my opinion, middle school and/or high school. These "preferences" can range from the preferred race, height, build, personality, age or even gender. Maybe you like people with criminal records. Kinky.
High school and middle school is the time for many people to have their first loves; the first love where you're blinded by love and you think "we're going to be together forever". The first love where you usually fight a lot but tell yourself "but (s)he's my soulmate. We fight but I know we're meant to be together. I'll make this work." The first love where you get cheated on despite it all. Or the first love you threw away when last week you were convinced you were in love. The first love where you yell "no one understands us!!!" even though your parents went through the same thing at your age. Everyone knows that your relationship won't last long, but you refuse to believe them. When you're 15 or 16 and filled with hormones and the most important thing in life is self-expression and self-discovery; this is what happens for so many people in high school.
Unless you're gay.
If you're gay, you can't tell anyone you're gay for sake of being bullied. High school is about self-repression. For four years, you chase guys that are unobtainable. Often, gay men stay virgins throughout high school. They secretly pine over a guy that will never want them back because they're straight. Their self-esteem and self-worth takes a huge dive after four years of no affection even though you want it badly. Sometimes, being straight is just so much "the norm", that people don't even realize that they could be gay. Of course there are exceptions, but I would say that the majority of gay men went through high school as a closeted virgin in my generation, and generations past.
Then, you leave high school. After 4 years of being sexually frustrated, you enter a world where you can get laid within the hour.
You are (for the most part) exposed to a world where being gay is accepted (maybe just in Canada). You meet gay people. There are apps on your smartphone just for meeting other gay men and fuckin 5 year olds have smart phones nowadays. People in the first grade are all given iPads from the school and I don't even own an iPad. Fuck that. Anyway, after so much time without any affection, it becomes as easy as a handshake to get sex from another man. You start to discover what you prefer in another guy. You finally start to understand what you prefer in another person. It may match your hypothetical wants of a guy with a 6-pack and well dressed; or maybe you discover you actually like petite guys with body hair. The world is your oyster. And you can fuck that oyster. Hard. Your self-esteem starts to become higher after as you start to be with more and more guys. Your self-respect, however, does not.
You become almost addicted to being with different guys because it's one way to show you that you're attractive. You're in your early 20's and many of your straight friends are in long-term relationships, but you're still discovering what you like and who you are as a gay man. Maybe you meet your first love, and you go through all the emotions that straight people did when they were 15. Sometimes after being single for so long, many gay men are used to and completely happy with being single. The fact that you're dealing with two men where getting sex is extremely easy doesn't help anyone remain faithful. You and your first love break-up for whatever reason and your self-esteem plummets. You revert to what raises your self-esteem, even if only for a while. You start sleeping around again. And this time you can do anything you want and that other guy won't make you stop at one fist. Put both fists up there muthafucka.
Besides, why rush to settle down? You can't accidentally get pregnant. Plus, your other gay friend slept with 15 people last year and you only slept with 9. You're such a loser. The point is, it's totally acceptable that gay men are promiscuous that there's almost no stigma for you to hook up with a different person every week. You don't even need to be sensitive to the other person. They're also a guy. They won't get attached. You don't need a bail-out strategy or some lame excuse about why you don't want to see them after tonight. It's just sex. They'll understand.
This cycle can continue for a long time. When the cycle breaks from person to person and of course, is a very big generalization. Maybe the cycle ends when you're in your early 20's. Maybe your late 20's. Maybe it never happens and you're that 40 year old white guy preying on the vulnerable young gay guys that are fresh out of high school. It doesn't matter the age, the race or your tax bracket; if you want sex, you can still get it easily. And maybe you're perfectly happy being single in your 40's. Society says we should pair off, but fuck society. In fact, butt fuck society. Society also tells us that we shouldn't eat nachos every day and that's stupid.
So yeah most of this shouldn't be news to most people. The point is, the lack of affection and self-discovery in high school really stunts emotional growth for gay men. Gay guys ages 17-23 are almost expected to whore themselves out a little as a part of self-discovery. Maybe when you're in your late 20's you're expected to "know better", but until then, go ahead and stick it in the butt. You're allowed to. The emotional maturity of gay men are usually significantly younger than their actual age. Admit it. Sometimes it's adorable, but after a while, it gets tiring dealing with things that seem obvious since you dealt with it 8 years ago.
Your friend recently comes out of the closet, and they also tell you they've fooled around with 7 guys in the past two months. You just pat them on the head and say "oh silly you. Just be safe and use protection." and that's how the conversation goes. I know a guy who's slept with over 40 people in 2 years. And that's not uncommon. Not at all. In fact, being a gay male who doesn't sleep around almost seems like a disadvantage because you won't be as sexually experienced as everyone else. We're almost encouraged to have sex with any butt hole attached to two legs and a taint.
I'm just ranting now. Somehow Wednesday is my weekly blog day. Cool. Have fun. Stay safe. And Call me.
Boggart
P.S. I'm awful in bed so don't expect a good time if you call me.
- Jews are cheap
- Asians have squinty eyes
- Mexicans are lazy
- Black people have the most even tan.
Gay men are promiscuous.
It doesn't matter if you're Black, White, Asian, Native American or whatever. If you're a gay male, you sleep around.
This is my opinion as to why (this might not apply so much to Europeans, but I think it holds true to most other places):
When is the first time people first start discovering their preferences? In my opinion, middle school and/or high school. These "preferences" can range from the preferred race, height, build, personality, age or even gender. Maybe you like people with criminal records. Kinky.
High school and middle school is the time for many people to have their first loves; the first love where you're blinded by love and you think "we're going to be together forever". The first love where you usually fight a lot but tell yourself "but (s)he's my soulmate. We fight but I know we're meant to be together. I'll make this work." The first love where you get cheated on despite it all. Or the first love you threw away when last week you were convinced you were in love. The first love where you yell "no one understands us!!!" even though your parents went through the same thing at your age. Everyone knows that your relationship won't last long, but you refuse to believe them. When you're 15 or 16 and filled with hormones and the most important thing in life is self-expression and self-discovery; this is what happens for so many people in high school.
Unless you're gay.
If you're gay, you can't tell anyone you're gay for sake of being bullied. High school is about self-repression. For four years, you chase guys that are unobtainable. Often, gay men stay virgins throughout high school. They secretly pine over a guy that will never want them back because they're straight. Their self-esteem and self-worth takes a huge dive after four years of no affection even though you want it badly. Sometimes, being straight is just so much "the norm", that people don't even realize that they could be gay. Of course there are exceptions, but I would say that the majority of gay men went through high school as a closeted virgin in my generation, and generations past.
Then, you leave high school. After 4 years of being sexually frustrated, you enter a world where you can get laid within the hour.
You are (for the most part) exposed to a world where being gay is accepted (maybe just in Canada). You meet gay people. There are apps on your smartphone just for meeting other gay men and fuckin 5 year olds have smart phones nowadays. People in the first grade are all given iPads from the school and I don't even own an iPad. Fuck that. Anyway, after so much time without any affection, it becomes as easy as a handshake to get sex from another man. You start to discover what you prefer in another guy. You finally start to understand what you prefer in another person. It may match your hypothetical wants of a guy with a 6-pack and well dressed; or maybe you discover you actually like petite guys with body hair. The world is your oyster. And you can fuck that oyster. Hard. Your self-esteem starts to become higher after as you start to be with more and more guys. Your self-respect, however, does not.
You become almost addicted to being with different guys because it's one way to show you that you're attractive. You're in your early 20's and many of your straight friends are in long-term relationships, but you're still discovering what you like and who you are as a gay man. Maybe you meet your first love, and you go through all the emotions that straight people did when they were 15. Sometimes after being single for so long, many gay men are used to and completely happy with being single. The fact that you're dealing with two men where getting sex is extremely easy doesn't help anyone remain faithful. You and your first love break-up for whatever reason and your self-esteem plummets. You revert to what raises your self-esteem, even if only for a while. You start sleeping around again. And this time you can do anything you want and that other guy won't make you stop at one fist. Put both fists up there muthafucka.
Besides, why rush to settle down? You can't accidentally get pregnant. Plus, your other gay friend slept with 15 people last year and you only slept with 9. You're such a loser. The point is, it's totally acceptable that gay men are promiscuous that there's almost no stigma for you to hook up with a different person every week. You don't even need to be sensitive to the other person. They're also a guy. They won't get attached. You don't need a bail-out strategy or some lame excuse about why you don't want to see them after tonight. It's just sex. They'll understand.
This cycle can continue for a long time. When the cycle breaks from person to person and of course, is a very big generalization. Maybe the cycle ends when you're in your early 20's. Maybe your late 20's. Maybe it never happens and you're that 40 year old white guy preying on the vulnerable young gay guys that are fresh out of high school. It doesn't matter the age, the race or your tax bracket; if you want sex, you can still get it easily. And maybe you're perfectly happy being single in your 40's. Society says we should pair off, but fuck society. In fact, butt fuck society. Society also tells us that we shouldn't eat nachos every day and that's stupid.
So yeah most of this shouldn't be news to most people. The point is, the lack of affection and self-discovery in high school really stunts emotional growth for gay men. Gay guys ages 17-23 are almost expected to whore themselves out a little as a part of self-discovery. Maybe when you're in your late 20's you're expected to "know better", but until then, go ahead and stick it in the butt. You're allowed to. The emotional maturity of gay men are usually significantly younger than their actual age. Admit it. Sometimes it's adorable, but after a while, it gets tiring dealing with things that seem obvious since you dealt with it 8 years ago.
Your friend recently comes out of the closet, and they also tell you they've fooled around with 7 guys in the past two months. You just pat them on the head and say "oh silly you. Just be safe and use protection." and that's how the conversation goes. I know a guy who's slept with over 40 people in 2 years. And that's not uncommon. Not at all. In fact, being a gay male who doesn't sleep around almost seems like a disadvantage because you won't be as sexually experienced as everyone else. We're almost encouraged to have sex with any butt hole attached to two legs and a taint.
I'm just ranting now. Somehow Wednesday is my weekly blog day. Cool. Have fun. Stay safe. And Call me.
Boggart
P.S. I'm awful in bed so don't expect a good time if you call me.
