#76 Guest_coltom_*
Posted 06 October 2012 - 09:49 PM
#77
Posted 07 October 2012 - 06:47 AM
It's ok. I'm intending to only get married once, even if I have to wait til I'm 90.I feel bad that I've had three weddings and some of y'all haven't even had one yet. Although I cherish all three, they all had more stress than they should have.
#78
Posted 07 October 2012 - 07:50 AM
I feel bad that I've had three weddings and some of y'all haven't even had one yet. Although I cherish all three, they all had more stress than they should have.
Should you not feel worse that you've had at least two unsuccessful marriages while most of us haven't had any? After all, the wedding isn't really the important part (as much as some women might disagree ).
#79
Posted 07 October 2012 - 08:29 AM
Should you not feel worse that you've had at least two unsuccessful marriages while most of us haven't had any? After all, the wedding isn't really the important part (as much as some women might disagree ).
I'm not sure that having one wife die of cancer really counts as an unsuccessful marriage, LW =/
#80
Posted 07 October 2012 - 09:05 AM
After all, the wedding isn't really the important part (as much as some women might disagree ).
One reason I want a simple wedding.
#81
Posted 07 October 2012 - 09:21 AM
I'm not sure that having one wife die of cancer really counts as an unsuccessful marriage, LW =/
This reminds me of when my grandma died and my grandpa would tell people, "She left me" when they'd ask how she was doing.
#82
Posted 07 October 2012 - 09:51 AM
I dunno why it feels like I'm being jabbed at from all directions lately, maybe I am *Shrug*
Anyway, my husband chose the location that we got married, he wanted Vegas so he got Vegas. I went dress shopping with the intention of not spending a lot, but the dress I fell in love with cost more than I expected. My husband wanted me to have what I wanted and if we have the money for it then why not? It's one day, sure... but it's one day that stays with you forever. I still think back to the day and I smile, it makes me happy... so how is that a bad thing?
No one's saying it's a bad thing, dear. I am happy for you that you had the wedding of your dreams. But everyone's dreams are not the same That's all.
#83
Posted 07 October 2012 - 10:05 AM
I still think back to the day and I smile, it makes me happy... so how is that a bad thing?
It can be a bad thing. I'm sure your marriage wasn't... but there are some people whose obsessions or ritualisms don't just border on unhealthy, they fling themselves into it with diamante-studded abandon.
#84
Posted 07 October 2012 - 10:07 AM
I'm not sure that having one wife die of cancer really counts as an unsuccessful marriage, LW =/
I didn't know that.
#85
Posted 07 October 2012 - 11:23 AM
There's a guy I see at the bank who tells people that.This reminds me of when my grandma died and my grandpa would tell people, "She left me" when they'd ask how she was doing.
No, no. That's not what I meant. It's fine for other people, but it's not my thing. (That said, I also have a bad habit of fitting my dreams to match my reality instead of the other way around.) From what you've told us, your whole relationship with your husband is like a fairytale. I love how your dress and location fit with the story of how you guys met and got together. It's sweet... I think it's great that you can look back and be happy. I hope I can say the same thing someday. (Also, my cake will probably be freaking expensive. I'd rather spend money on food than clothes, lol)I dunno why it feels like I'm being jabbed at from all directions lately, maybe I am *Shrug*
Anyway, my husband chose the location that we got married, he wanted Vegas so he got Vegas. I went dress shopping with the intention of not spending a lot, but the dress I fell in love with cost more than I expected. My husband wanted me to have what I wanted and if we have the money for it then why not? It's one day, sure... but it's one day that stays with you forever. I still think back to the day and I smile, it makes me happy... so how is that a bad thing?
#86
Posted 07 October 2012 - 12:26 PM
I've got lots of practice to do before I get that good, though
#87
Posted 07 October 2012 - 12:37 PM
#88
Posted 07 October 2012 - 12:43 PM
The best part about weddings is the cake.
Spoiler
I'd say bridesmaids and then cake (as long as the bridesmaids haven't had too much cake, of course).
#89
Posted 07 October 2012 - 01:03 PM
Cake. I love it when there are raspberry swirls in the middle.The best part about weddings is the cake.
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I love little sandwiches too.
Edited by Napiform, 07 October 2012 - 01:04 PM.
#90
Posted 07 October 2012 - 01:09 PM
I'd say bridesmaids and then cake (as long as the bridesmaids haven't had too much cake, of course).
Oh, yes, the bridesmaids are awesome too.
#91 Guest_coltom_*
Posted 07 October 2012 - 01:18 PM
Three marriages, two women, one grave.Should you not feel worse that you've had at least two unsuccessful marriages while most of us haven't had any? After all, the wedding isn't really the important part (as much as some women might disagree ).
This reminds me of when my grandma died and my grandpa would tell people, "She left me" when they'd ask how she was doing.
I'm not sure if that was a joke by your Grandfather or not, but I got to thinking about it. It really does feel that way. There is part of you that is so angry for the other leaving you, even though most of us don't have much of a choice. Sometimes Mitzi is mad at me because I will leave her too soon, and some days she's mad at me because I've not already left.
Also, Sweetey is wrong. It was not, technically, in the end the cancer (leukemia) that killed my first beloved.
Edited by coltom, 07 October 2012 - 01:28 PM.
#92
Posted 08 October 2012 - 08:07 AM
Also, Sweetey is wrong. It was not, technically, in the end the cancer (leukemia) that killed my first beloved.
No, it was MRSA, as I recall. Apologies for the shorthand.
Just remember my daughter was just a bridesmaid, so don't go where I think everyone is going.
One of them was.
Another was the bride, of course.
#93 Guest_coltom_*
Posted 08 October 2012 - 07:48 PM
My first wedding barely counted, we had to drive across Pennsylvania and into Ohio where I was old enough to legally marry. The ride was so hard on her, but it had to be done. The second one, we were pretty much on our own, money and advice wise, a little baptist church, reception in the basement. A good preacher, good vows but simple. She cried all the way through, I was nervous she'd came to her sense. The third was just a civil ceremony, just a technicality, but then the judge spoke so beautifully about not just want that brings use to marriage, but the desire and incompleteness we feel. Only together does a man or woman truly become whole and that is the truth. It was so beautiful. I was shocked, here was a civil judge saying the same words he'd likely said a hundred times, but they were so beautiful. She was so beautiful, my beloved on, older now, still with some of the pounds of childbirth a few years prior, more lines on her face and gravity her and there, still she is the one I love truly, madly and deeply. Fight with me she will, we just had a good one two hours ago, but the love will always be there to bring us back again. I love that stubborn crazy woman, now and forever.
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