Are you saying that you consider cuddling anyone that you like as being "emotional cheating"?
I don't think that showing any kind of affection to a person that you like can be "emotional cheating", or you'd end up living a woefully insular life.
I'm pretty sure I already said
In general if friends hold hands is fine although I wouldn't do it or have a problem with my SO doing. Cuddling, I'd be shifty about it and wouldn't want my SO doing it. But in this particular case with the back story involved I would call both emotional cheating.
An emotional affair can be defined as follows:
"A relationship between a person and someone other than (their) spouse (or lover) that has an impact on the level of intimacy, emotional distance and overall dynamic balance in the marriage. The role of an affair is to create emotional distance in the marriage.
Edited by Mishelle, 26 February 2013 - 06:24 PM.