People (Yung) have asked repeatedly for alternatives to spanking, as if spanking or otherwise inflicting pain or discomfort upon your children is the only real option for punishment/discipline. This couldn't be farther from the truth.
I think the reason yung has been asking specifically about spanking because I (and someone else) asked Sweeney about timeout/naughtystep alternatives because he made it seem like those were unacceptable too. Tag-teaming.
Think about how you're treated at work or school or random public places, as a grown person. When you do something you're not supposed to do, can your boss bend you over their knee and spank you? No... and yet somehow they manage to punish or sanction employees for adverse behaviors and by doing so discourage them in the future.
Where I worked, there are verbal warnings and write ups and then you're fired. I can understand verbal warnings. I don't give allowances to the kids, simply because they don't understand money yet. We're still working on it. I can hardly fire my kids. I think one of the reasons that those things work for adults is because of the extrinsic result (money, bonuses) or an intrinsic result (promotion, self-esteem, peer pressure, etc.) Also, just as with kids, there are some adults who straight up don't give a fuck and will do whatever just cause they can and don't care about the punishment.
I don't see why it's OK for us to hit and humiliate our children when we wouldn't want that done to ourselves. The punishment should suit the "crime," per-se. THINK about what your child has done, and discipline them accordingly. Don't just respond instinctively with whacking them.
I don't see this thread as having a surplus of people just randomly whacking kids.
I will say that this thread has decreased the spanking level in our house, but even before, it wasn't just random swats. There were verbal warnings, and discussion before and after.