Okay so my sister explained something to me:
She said that when it comes to guys (specifically males), they have a "bro code" that is obviously unstated, but one of the key features in it is that "no matter what, you're my bro. If you don't personally fuck over my life, then you'll always be my bro and I'll always have your back". The example my sister gave is that one of her other friend's completely fucked over a few people's lives (but not the male friends), went to jail, became a drug addict, etc. He even made my sister and my family's life a living hell. She obviously cut ties from him, but her male friends didn't. Saying it was because they're guys and they need to have his back.
Another example is in my life: someone is tormenting my friend and we don't know who it is. He thought it was person A and confronted him etc. Person A denies it adamantly but through this process, their friendship has all but disappeared. It's awkward, they fight all the time, it's just a tense situation for everyone. But I asked my friend that if it's revealed A isn't the person who did it, do you still consider him a friend, and he said "yes. Of course. He's my bro," despite the fact that neither of them are talking to each other and A is basically crying 24/7.
I respect this mentality to a degree but I also think it's batshits crazy. I don't think anyone deserves an automatic pass for any reason. I don't care if it's my best friend or a close family member. And those are people with whom I'm close; for the most part, these guys are barely acquaintances yet they have each other's back no matter what.
Someone explain this mentality to me. Or how you feel about it.
Or just discuss a time someone fucked over your life. Go nucking futs.
I've had people who kinda messed my life up and I have not said a word to them after that. That's my style anyway.