Relatively recently, I met a guy whose in his mid to late 30's and it turns out he's been married to a guy for over 15 years, and dated for ~20 years. They seem to have a very stable marriage and spend all their free time together and are very much still in love. However, even more recently, I found out they actually have an open marriage. I don't know the details, but I know that both people have sex with other people (I'm not sure if it's a threesome kinda deal or if the other person has to disclose the info or what have you). This kinda surprised me until I talked to more people and I found out that open marriages/relationships aren't exactly rare.
So I have a few questions: What is your opinion on open relationships/marriages? Do they work? Or are they kidding themselves?
Why does it seem much more prevalent with same-sex male relationships? Are gay men just more honest? That sex doesn't have to equate to love and sometimes they want sex with more than just one person and that it doesn't mean they love their partner any less.
Is monogamy stupid? Monogamy is a social construct of being with one person all your life when in most cases it goes against nature where polygamy (or at least multiple women to have children) is commonly found. Are we all kidding ourselves with monogamy? Is an open relationship truly the best of both worlds?
I personally could not do it because I'm fuckin' crazy and could not handle my partner sleeping with another person behind my back. Plus it apparently means I'm not enough in bed which is kinda shitty. Then again I can't say I blame them since I just starfish *plop*
SPOILER: ME IN BED