I don't recall this happening with anyone who has died, but to me personality plays a huge part in physical appearance. Not so much a great personality makes an ugly person cuter, but the reverse is definitely true. There was a girl I had seen my freshman year of high school (I think she was a jr/sr at the time) and I thought she was a mega babe, like a 9+. Then the first interaction I had with her, I realized she was a total bitch. Not to me, just in general. From that second forward, I didn't ever even find her cute. idk if she let herself go and is actually ugly, but I really can't find anything attractive about her anymore. Same goes for a lot of people I know, that was just the most intense fall.
Yeah, I have definitely experienced that.
Desperately afraid of doing this to my grandmother after she dies. She's abusive, I finally managed to see her as abusive. I don't want to halo her. I don't want to listen to people mourning her and calling her a good person.
This happened when my brother died in a car accident. It drove me insane. My brother was not a terrible person. But he wasn't super great either. He was a bit homophobic and definitely sexist (not entirely his fault, my dad is the epitome of homophobia and sexism). He treated his girlfriends like objects in a lot of ways. And he was reckless. And like, I remember the day of his showing, a police officer came to ask us if we thought he was suicidal or a reckless driver, so they could determine the "cause" of the collison. And my dad was just talking him up, so much. And I just flatly said "No. You're wrong. He texted and drove, he never wore his seat belt when I was in the car and he wasn't a good driver". He died because he wasn't wearing his seat belt. It made me so crazy how much ALL my family members pretended he was this amazing kid.. and he was a bit of shit and a bit of goodness... you know, like all humans.
I think I do this with literally everyone I come in contact with.
A lot of people probably do. xD
