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#1 Mishelle

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Posted 06 November 2016 - 09:19 AM

If you were in prison and you had a partner would you be ok with them sleeping with someone else?

Backstory for anyone who cares to read:

My friend has been "dating" a guy in prison for 3 years. Up until 3 months ago she was also sleeping with dudes while she was in this relationship. Now that the guy is out she caught him with another girl and flipped out. I personally don't think she should be surprised because she has been sleeping with other guys during this "relationship" so why is it wrong for him to see another girl? If she wanted monogamy when he got out she should've been specific about that instead of sleeping around (and telling him about it btw) and just expecting him to be ok with it.

So what would you do if you were in this situation? I know what you're thinking, "I wouldn't be in this situation, Mishelle, I love myself," but try to suspend your disbelief for 5 mins.

#2 Kaddict

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Posted 06 November 2016 - 09:48 AM

I absolutely agree with you. Open relationships are fine, but they have to go both ways. If they decided to "take a break" while homeboy was in prison, that is different. But if they were still in a relationship, she has no reason to be pissed that he is starting to make up for her infidelities. At best she was just unclear with her intentions, at worst she is a total hypocrite. 



#3 ohml

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Posted 06 November 2016 - 11:08 AM

I think anyone would be surprised to find out if their partner is sleeping with other people, unless they do have that type of relationship. Though being surprised and being angry are two different things. She shouldn't be angry. 



#4 Dazz

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Posted 06 November 2016 - 11:14 AM

I don't think I'd ever be okay with my partner sleeping with someone else. But then again I don't think I'd even be able to maintain a relationship while in prison, unless I have kids with the girl or it's been a long relationship already, it's too much to put her through because of my fuck ups. I know some states do conjugal visits right? Was that not the case for your girl? But I think it's unfair for her to be flipping her shit and expecting him to be chewing on the same old starburst, while she's been helping herself to the pick 'n' mix for years y'know?



#5 Daria

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Posted 06 November 2016 - 12:21 PM

I would never sleep with anyone else while my partner was in prison. I would expect him to also be faithful to me no matter if I am in prison or not.

 

Actually heard a story on the radio about a week ago...

A man and a woman started dating and about a week into their relationship he went to prison. 3 or 4 years I don't remember. But anyway, she kept all contact with him the entire time and they exchanged more than 1000 letters. When he got out they got married and now have 2 kids. 

Kind of romantic in a way lmao



#6 Romy

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Posted 06 November 2016 - 02:01 PM

Jesus that's an unhealthy relationship.

 

Open relationships go both ways. 



#7 Amethyst

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Posted 06 November 2016 - 03:02 PM

No.

 

Our relationship isn't open.

If we talked about it first, maybe. Otherwise, no. 



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Posted 06 November 2016 - 07:07 PM

She told him about it and then expected him not to do it and to be okay with her having done it? Pfft. If I was doing it, open about it, without seriously communicating I expected monogamy from them, I would not be surprised if my partner slept around. Your friend is being incredibly unfair, though her feelings may be valid, as we can't really control them - she's being a turd and a hypocrite. And I say that as someone with an open marriage.



#9 Mishelle

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Posted 08 November 2016 - 07:24 PM

She told him about it and then expected him not to do it and to be okay with her having done it? Pfft. If I was doing it, open about it, without seriously communicating I expected monogamy from them, I would not be surprised if my partner slept around. Your friend is being incredibly unfair, though her feelings may be valid, as we can't really control them - she's being a turd and a hypocrite. And I say that as someone with an open marriage.


Yeah I think she's totally being hypocritical but I hate this guy so I told her she's totally justified in being upset.

#10 MozzarellaSticks

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Posted 10 November 2016 - 04:48 AM

I'm all for having an open relationship, but the idea of dating a felon is off putting to me. I might just break up with them, and tell them maybe they can find me later after prison when they're established again.

#11 Mishelle

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Posted 23 November 2016 - 08:38 PM

I'm all for having an open relationship, but the idea of dating a felon is off putting to me. I might just break up with them, and tell them maybe they can find me later after prison when they're established again.


That was my plan of action. I told her basically to wait until he actually started trying to become a functional member of society but she got caught up. Smh.

#12 MozzarellaSticks

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Posted 25 November 2016 - 08:38 AM

That was my plan of action. I told her basically to wait until he actually started trying to become a functional member of society but she got caught up. Smh.

I mean, from what you've said about her before, the girl has issues she has projected onto this man.


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