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#1 ToriAndNate

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Posted 27 January 2017 - 01:32 PM

I know a Neopets forum isn't really the best place to go for this kind of thing but I really have nowhere else to go, plus I really like this place and it feels warm and friendly so I figured I would go ahead and see what kind of results I get.

 

Anyway, I've been engaged to my fiance for almost 9 months now. I couldn't be happier, never have been and probably never will be. I love her with every ounce of my being, and want to be with her for the rest of my life, and all the other good stuff you could imagine. But, I am a severely insecure person, and also suffer from paranoid schizophrenia.

 

So with that being said, the problem that I have is thinking that she is always talking to other people on dating sites or through text or, whatever, and is eventually going to leave me for someone else. It's not that I don't trust her or anything, it's just that like a famous YouTuber Shane Dawson talks about, there's a 99.99% chance of it not happening, but there's still that .01% that it can happen, and that .01% absolutely kills me. Every time she receives a message, I get insecure and think she's talking with some other guy. Every time we're apart for even 2 minutes I think she's with someone else :(

 

And I am so terrified this is going to tear us apart eventually or at least damage our relationship :( 



#2 Keil

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Posted 27 January 2017 - 03:18 PM

Utter this words in front of the person of interest in a way that you, yourself, would believe to lead to a serious conversation and make sure you have at least 80% of their attention:

 

"As you already know, I live with paranoid schizophrenia. Lately, I have been experiencing discouraging thoughts that have you talking to other people on dating sites or through text or, whatever, and are eventually going to leave me for someone else. I am mortified by these thoughts because I deeply love you and cherish our relationship. Can we take some time to talk about these thoughts and feelings I'm going through right now? I want to get through this with you."

 

Hopefully you don't fuck up whatever happens afterwards. Relationships people suck.

 

Source: I am a cynical misanthrope.



#3 Trapezeo

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Posted 27 January 2017 - 03:49 PM

I've been really insecure with my current relationship plenty of times. I always feel like my boyfriend can do better than me or is wanting someone else. He's an exhibitionist so it took time getting used to that. It took a few arguments because of me going through his phone and online accounts to make me realize that he does want me. I almost ruined our relationship a few times. 

 

It took me almost ruining my relationship to stop being jealous. Understandably suffering from schizophrenia complicates things, but I'd just openly talk to her and explain how you feel. 

 

It seems like I over shared, but I've been there. Hopefully things work out for you! 



#4 HiMyNameIsNick

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Posted 02 February 2017 - 10:02 AM

She's totally dating every guy in your town, sorry m8.

 

 

 

 

 

 

How old are you?



#5 ToriAndNate

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Posted 02 February 2017 - 11:42 AM

She's totally dating every guy in your town, sorry m8.

 

 

 

 

 

 

How old are you?

 

And you're a virgin =D



#6 HiMyNameIsNick

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Posted 02 February 2017 - 11:48 AM

And you're a virgin =D

 

 

Why the aggression? I'm just asking how old are you.

 

 

 

 

I'm not a virgin btw, your gf took my virginity.



#7 ToriAndNate

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Posted 02 February 2017 - 12:01 PM

Hmm I don't know maybe because you were a dickhead towards me first? 

 

Your attempted personal attacks don't hurt me btw, they're pathetic.



#8 HiMyNameIsNick

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Posted 02 February 2017 - 12:02 PM

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#9 ToriAndNate

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Posted 02 February 2017 - 12:04 PM

You're not even worth my time you're just another useless troll.



#10 HiMyNameIsNick

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Posted 02 February 2017 - 12:06 PM

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#11 Swar

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Posted 02 February 2017 - 12:26 PM

That's not even good shitposting :/

#12 NapisaurusRex

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Posted 03 February 2017 - 11:41 AM

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Stop.

 

I know a Neopets forum isn't really the best place to go for this kind of thing but I really have nowhere else to go, plus I really like this place and it feels warm and friendly so I figured I would go ahead and see what kind of results I get.

 

Anyway, I've been engaged to my fiance for almost 9 months now. I couldn't be happier, never have been and probably never will be. I love her with every ounce of my being, and want to be with her for the rest of my life, and all the other good stuff you could imagine. But, I am a severely insecure person, and also suffer from paranoid schizophrenia.

 

So with that being said, the problem that I have is thinking that she is always talking to other people on dating sites or through text or, whatever, and is eventually going to leave me for someone else. It's not that I don't trust her or anything, it's just that like a famous YouTuber Shane Dawson talks about, there's a 99.99% chance of it not happening, but there's still that .01% that it can happen, and that .01% absolutely kills me. Every time she receives a message, I get insecure and think she's talking with some other guy. Every time we're apart for even 2 minutes I think she's with someone else :(

 

And I am so terrified this is going to tear us apart eventually or at least damage our relationship :(

Are you being treated for this? I've been digging around for a friend, and unfortunately, you can't really DIY your way out of schizophrenia this late in the game the way you can with a lot of other things. If you let it go without doing anything, I can tell you with about 90% certainty that yes, it'll damage your relationship.



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Posted 03 February 2017 - 02:35 PM

She's totally dating every guy in your town, sorry m8.

 

Uncalled for in this kind of thread, dude. OP is opening up here and you're joking about their insecurities.

 

I mean I don't think you really meant harm, (and personally I would have laughed off what you said) but you can't really be surprised when a stranger gets upset when you push their buttons.




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