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#76 scornty

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Posted 25 July 2018 - 11:12 AM

I agree, to the extent prostitution is a job it should be treated like one. I think whether it's right for them to service married people is like whether you'd knowingly sell alcohol to a minor. You as the seller might think it's wrong and enabling, or you might think it doesn't matter because you drank as a minor and you were fine, depending on your beliefs, or you might really need the money either way. Morality is secondhand to you being able to pay rent. 

 

I think no one is beholden to keep anyone else happy. If you cheated with someone, it's your decision, and if someone married decided to cheat with you, it was their decision. If you refused, it was your decision. The SO might been unhappy, or they may not be, and you may be seen as a shitty person buy them or other people. But to all rights, they can't make the decision for you, you have to decide yourself. 



#77 Brandenburg75

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Posted 25 July 2018 - 01:33 PM

Selling alcohol to a minor doesn't really mesh to me. It would be more like selling alcohol to a person you are aware is in AA. What right do you have to force them not to ruin their own work toward self improvement.

 

As for blaming the pimp for cheating? The Pimp can't be held accountable for that and neither can the prostitute just like the alcohol vendor can't be faulted for selling to the guy with his AA chip that is now either in the trash or a blatant lie. The pimp most certainly can be held accountable for workers rights violations depending on how they treat their workers, but that is an entirely different conversation. 

 

As for sleeping with someone who is married blaming the third wheel is a little much. Even if he knew the person was married the truth is that person was going to cheat if not with that person than with another. Just my 5np but if someone cheats on you drop them. They will do it again, they will do it in their next relationship. Whether they are bad people are not isn't really important. This is just the type of person they are and the world would be a little better if cheaters just stated "Hey I'm going to cheat if you aren't cool with that then stop sleeping with the smarmy charmer you met at a bar and find someone who doesn't spend 9 hours of their day every few days trying to hook up with random people."

 

Okay that might have been a bit preachy so skip the first part, here is the conclusion, (cheaters = bad: people who sleep with cheaters = opportunistic: people really think their partner won't cheat again = stupid) 



#78 scornty

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Posted 26 July 2018 - 03:45 PM

I was not referring to any pimp. 'You' in my explanation being you the prostitute. 

 

I'm assuming this topic is from the perspective of the cheater who knows that the person they're sleeping with is married, because if you were the SO that was cheated on then of course you would say no to it. I agree with you that the cheater is going to do what they want, just as you are going to do what you want. And the question of the topic is if you should morally. My point being that no one else is making you make the decision but you, so it doesn't matter if other people think you shouldn't, or if the SO is sad, because you can choose whichever option in the end. Which is sort of like your viewpoint of it. I hold a similar opinion on married people that cheat, except they're breaking whatever promises they made to their SO as well.

 

I don't think I was blaming anyone?



#79 Brandenburg75

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Posted 31 July 2018 - 09:06 PM

Ah sorry if verbiage was a little off. I didn't mean you blaming but merely blame as in fault in general, which in my opinion would be the center of any morality question. Sorry if it was unclear I am a bad communicator. I just meant that in cases of cheating the third person would be mostly blameless as their participation changed nothing, the cheater was going to cheat from the beginning.

 

The statements involving pimps were related to posts made by Cara on page three.



#80 Mishelle

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Posted 08 August 2018 - 06:44 PM

As a person who has slept with a married person I’ll say that it’s generally coming from these places

1. That person doesn’t want commitment and when you’re sleeping with a married person you clearly don’t have to deal with committment

2. the married person is lying and making it out like they’re going to get divorced when they have no intentions of leaving their spouse

3. They’re paying so who the fuck cares

Edited by Mishelle, 08 August 2018 - 06:44 PM.


#81 Romy

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Posted 09 August 2018 - 12:48 PM

As a person who has slept with a married person I’ll say that it’s generally coming from these places

3. They’re paying so who the fuck cares

You got paid to sleep with a married person...?



#82 Amethyst

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Posted 09 August 2018 - 03:51 PM

You got paid to sleep with a married person...?

 

Probably prostitution. 



#83 Mishelle

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Posted 11 August 2018 - 06:59 AM

You got paid to sleep with a married person...?


No my situation was the second one. He made it seem like they were separated and getting divorced but she messaged me on Instagram and told me they were still together. But I remember a Twitter war not to long ago where people were arguing whether or not it’s the responsibility of sex workers not to sleep with married men. They said no it’s not their responsibility especially considering a huge part of their customer base are married men, and I agree with them.

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Posted 11 August 2018 - 01:19 PM

No my situation was the second one. He made it seem like they were separated and getting divorced but she messaged me on Instagram and told me they were still together. But I remember a Twitter war not to long ago where people were arguing whether or not it’s the responsibility of sex workers not to sleep with married men. They said no it’s not their responsibility especially considering a huge part of their customer base are married men, and I agree with them.

Sorry I didn't mean to insinuate anything. That was wrong of me to ask.

 

 

 

I agree with the sex workers.



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Posted 15 August 2018 - 03:49 AM

me2 and thats a whole different debate.




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