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[Sweeney]

My bad, I thought you were the girl on your pic. I didn't do it on purpose.

Seems kind of daft, really, considering I also have a rather large signature with my face on it.
Handy for ignoring the other part of my post, though.

[Cydonia]

I haven't dated anyone... Online and stuff, but I think that since it's the same feeling and the feeling is what matters... It can't be all bad.
But I DO think it's really hard to trust someone like that, without being physically there to keep an eye on them.
My humble opinion.

[cheunge]

i think its perfectly fine, theres plenty of legitimate places online to meet and find your "oulmate" like eharmony. as long as ppl find love, i dont think it matters how they find it.

[artificial]

Seems kind of daft, really, considering I also have a rather large signature with my face on it.
Handy for ignoring the other part of my post, though.

I find it intriguing that you're quick to call people out on ignoring parts of your posts, whilst you do the same time and time again. I have nothing against you personally, but you're quite skilled at interpreting people's posts in a way that is parallel to the points you'd like to debate. It's quite brilliant actually. You must have been quite popular on your schools debate team.

The only downside being we tend to debate circular rubbish.

[Sweeney]

I find it intriguing that you're quick to call people out on ignoring parts of your posts, whilst you do the same time and time again.

Where have I ignored part of a post that was addressed directly to me?

I have nothing against you personally, but you're quite skilled at interpreting people's posts in a way that is parallel to the points you'd like to debate. It's quite brilliant actually. You must have been quite popular on your schools debate team.

The only downside being we tend to debate circular rubbish.

I'm not sure I follow what you mean. Peoples posts are their own... if they are ambiguous, that's not down to me.

[brothulhu]

I love this topic and it's what I study in college. =D

Some of you might be surprised that online relationships actually end in success MORE often than relationships that are purely face-to-face. There are exceptions to the trend, of course, but generally, an online relationship requires both parties to have a vested interest in developing the relationship. Addressing the topic that has been discussed over the last few pages: the lack of sexual interaction is actually a boon for relationships early on. You learn to connect with a person on a deeper level than just a natural carnal level.

I can go into detail if anyone wants, but I don't want this post to become a tl;dr wall of text. There are plenty of fun things to talk about: deception, the issues with a lack of non-verbal communication, ect.

[Frizzle]

Sources please.

[brothulhu]

Here's a list of sources (related to the subject) I have studied personally that I can easily reference because I have them on hand. I can list more, but it would just be the product of me searching on Google Scholar for some more articles.

Textbooks:
-Wright, K. B., & Webb, L. M. (2011). Computer-mediated communication in personal relationships. New York: Peter Lang.
-Wood, J. (2010). Interpersonal Communication. Boston: Wadsworth.

Journal Articles you may need access to read:
-Gibbs, J. L., Ellison N. B., & Heino R. D. (2006). Self-presentation in online personals: The role of anticipated future interaction, self-disclosure, and perceived success in Internet dating. Communication Research, 33, 152-177.
-Valkenburg, P. M., & Peter, J. J. (2007). Who looks for casual dates on the internet? A test of the compensation and the recreation hypotheses. New Media & Society, 9, 455-474.
-Valkenburg, P. M., & Schouten, A. P. (2007). Precursors and Underlying Processes of Adolescents’ Online Self-Disclosure: Developing and Testing an ‘‘Internet-Attribute-Perception’’ Model. Media Psychology, 10, 292–315.

Some websites/online articles you can view without database/journal access:
-Science Daily article

-What makes an online relationship successful...

I just googled the links. I'm not sure how scholarly they are.

Edited by brothulhu, 03 December 2012 - 11:32 AM.

[jinq]

I guess it depends on what you want out of a relationship. For me, probably not.

[Mud]

I just have to say that online relationships are the worst fucking thing. Even if it's just a friend-type of relationship, it almost always leads to something perverted (when I'm talking to a guy or something). And I've done some really, really stupid things when I was younger, like meeting up w/ people I met online. It's just so damn awkward. Never again.

Edited by mynameismud, 09 December 2012 - 02:02 PM.

[Turnip]

Lol, I just have to say that online relationships are the worst fucking thing. Even if it's just a friend-type of relationship, it almost always leads to something perverted (when I'm talking to a guy or something). And I've done some really, really stupid things when I was younger, like meeting up w/ people I met online. It's just so damn awkward. Never again.

Maybe you're just talking to the wrong people...? I've met plenty of people online who don't like to talk about perverted things, and some who sure talk about it but not all that frequently. Hell I've met people from 4chan and anime/Homestuck-related places who don't talk about pervy stuff all the time. If you just tell the person you don't feel comfortable talking about those things then they'll understand, if not then blocking them works.

Honest question, how is meeting up with someone online stupid? Like I can totally see how if you don't go through the process of seeing the person with some sort of proof it's them like talking on the phone or Skype/seeing a photo of them/whatever and just.... meeting up with them as soon as you talk for the first time then yeah that is a kind of bad decision lmao. But I dunno what you did before meeting up with them or any of that sooo ┐('～`； )┌

... Don't think that the online relationships that you've been in and how they've turned out means that it's like that for everyone else

[Mud]

... Don't think that the online relationships that you've been in and how they've turned out means that it's like that for everyone else

I know it's not like that for everyone else. And not *every* single online relationship I've been in has been like that, when it comes to friends (I've made a few close friends online too). It just depends on which sites you go to and the community there

And about meeting people online, a lot of people do that. But I meant stupid as in going to some shady site and meeting up with someone that you've only talked to once.

Edited by Mud, 09 December 2012 - 02:40 PM.