I'm assuming this is the "religious" marriage...
But the point I'm getting is that, if gay marriage is legalized, isn't that forcing pastors who perform these ceremonies being forced to do something they disagree with?
Because if marriage is a "religious" thing, or what not, i'm confused on what the definition of marriage and what kind of marriage ceremonies we're discussing.
So if Gay marriage ceremonies aren't performed as a religious ceremony, what should a gay marriage look like?
Basically i'm trying to figure out what is the concept of these marriages. It seems that this word is being tossed up but have multiple meanings to it, because it "depends on this, and that"... so I guess to simplify my response:
- What does it mean to have a Gay Marriage? Because if we're discussing the "traditions" of the "Christian Marriage", and religion shouldn't be involved in marriage, then what is act of marriage?
I dunno is that confusing? I'm sort of more confused in typing this out... but going to toss it out there and see if it makes sense
In the USA religious ceremonies for marriage are just that ceremonies. The couple is legally married when the couple, witnesses and officiate (either a judge, religious leader or even captain of a ship) sign the marriage license. Everything else is just fluff..
No one can make a church preform a gay marriage. Lets look at the catholic church for a perfect example. Divorce is legal in the US. Its against catholic law for a divorced person to be remarried in the church. The US government doesn't force the catholic church to marry the divorced person. It would be the same with a gay couple.
I got married in Las Vegas by a Justice of the Peace. I had the dress and all the frills. Its no more legal or illegal then if someone got married in a church.
?? As in it's illegal to love? Sorry, this isn't meant to be sarcastic, I'm not following.
Does that mean that's the idea of gay marriage?
Sorry JC I am lost. I'll try reading it again. xD
Yep JC is right..gay marriage could happen by a judge, a sea captain or a religious leader who isn't against it.
This has nothing to do with financial benefits. This is about human rights.
But lets be honest its both.
I have a friend who lost his partner of 15 years. His partner's parents refused him access to the his love's deathbed. Since he ins't legally next of kin he couldn't force the issue and was banned from the hospital room.
When his partner died he was kicked out of their house they owned for 20 yrs.
So in one month he lost his love of his life, he became homeless and even lost their business.
If they were legally married he would have been still heartbroken but would have had more rights.
Oh and to add to your edit Annabeth (please don't think I am picking on you ok?) Gay marriage would be the same as straight marriage no differences.
Edited by chobitz, 23 February 2010 - 10:02 AM.