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DragonX

Member Since 03 Mar 2010
Offline Aug 03 2014 02:54 PM

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In Topic: Are you self destructive?

05 June 2011 - 02:26 PM

What about if they don't let you discuss the issue? How do you resolve the conflict then? Do you give up and move on?


I'll let them know that I'm hear to talk if they ever want to and that I do care about how they feel. We both entered into a relationship because we obviously felt something for each other and perhaps things changed since then, but I still care about everything, even if things don't work out. I'll try my best to put my emotions aside and not be confrontational .. and let them know that I just want to talk about how I feel and about how they feel, regardless of who is right or wrong or more right or more wrong. I don't know where we'll go from here but I just want to talk about it and try and understand why things ended up how they are.

It's easier said than done .. especially if I'm really angry, but it's what I try to do, at least once I've had some time.

Usually, I've found that if I'm not accusing and emphasize just wanting to discuss it, over time, people are willing to talk. I try to do more of the "It upset me when ___"s rather than "You ___"s. Chances are if it hurt me, it also hurt them.

And, if they're really insistent on just never speaking again... I'll leave it alone and respect their decision. But, I'll let them know that I appreciate everything they did, that I'll always be up for a conversation, and that I'm sorry for whatever wrongs I may have done. I show them I care, but I can't have a one-sided conversation with someone completely bent on not saying a word to me.

In Topic: Are you self destructive?

05 June 2011 - 12:53 PM

I used to always start pushing people away or just give up when things go wrong. But, I always wonder what would of happened if I give things another chance.

I make an effort to try to remember that no one is ever perfect, myself or others, now. If I'm hurt, I take a break from life ... mope and sleep... and then start over and think about what to do when I'm less emotional about it. Other people may make mistakes and sometimes those mistakes are the ones that hurt me, but then I remember, I make them too. There will be arguements and wrongs made in every relationship, but if it's important to me, and to the other person, we'll talk about it and the relationship can move from there. We'll forgive each other and both learn from the experience, and I think that's how relationships get stronger.

Sure, sometimes things will end, or maybe it will change and never go back to the way they were, but I think it's important to at least discuss the issue. I'll remember who I am and I'll stand up for myself, but I make a point of hearing the other side and changing if I made a mistake. If things are meant to be, it'll happen. If not, we'll both move on.

In Topic: [Neopets Programs] Kad Feeder

13 May 2011 - 08:34 AM

Alright, I'll try that. Thanks :).

Edit: It's supposed to be fixed now. Gonna try it :p

In Topic: [Neopets Programs] Kad Feeder

10 May 2011 - 02:35 PM

Thanks, I'll try that.
How close to the time do you have to wait until you turn it on?

What I'm finding is that it won't function if all of the kads are fed. I've been on kad boards and when it's time for a main I turn on the auto feeder. Then I have to wait and do it again. I hope they ask for something ub soon :(


In Topic: [Neopets Programs] Kad Feeder

07 May 2011 - 10:37 AM

I just tried it again. Still doesn't work for me. All I get is "calling refresh" for several hours :(