Mishelle

If you were in prison and you had a partner would you be ok with them sleeping with someone else?

Backstory for anyone who cares to read:

My friend has been "dating" a guy in prison for 3 years. Up until 3 months ago she was also sleeping with dudes while she was in this relationship. Now that the guy is out she caught him with another girl and flipped out. I personally don't think she should be surprised because she has been sleeping with other guys during this "relationship" so why is it wrong for him to see another girl? If she wanted monogamy when he got out she should've been specific about that instead of sleeping around (and telling him about it btw) and just expecting him to be ok with it.

So what would you do if you were in this situation? I know what you're thinking, "I wouldn't be in this situation, Mishelle, I love myself," but try to suspend your disbelief for 5 mins.

Honestly I think past generations have got us beat. Decades ago they didn't have camera phones and social media so the parties would get really wild. The wild drinking parties during prohibition, the orgies in Studio 54 before the AIDS epidemic. I don't think we've got other generations beat at all, I think we're just more public about it since everything is on social media.

I'm glad Donald Trump ran for president. It exposed a lot about this country that most people don't want to acknowledge.

Thank you ladies! Definitely going to look into one now.

Happy Birthday Emily!!

Why is your user title "Bitch Of The Boards" ?

Probably the same reason yours is "Ableist Neocodex Elite Four Member"

If you got to have one superpower, what would it be and why?

Teleportation so I can teleport and vacation anywhere in the world. Or teleport myself into a bank vault and rob that bitch.

You are correct. I suppose I just hold the Private Leader to higher standards - being that they should not be rude and disrespectful to other members.

This is Codex not the United Nations. But anyway I'm glad to find another person who agrees that sex work isn't inherently empowering. Usually when I voice a negative opinion of porn/sex work in feminist circles I'm accused of being a SWERF.

It means that he had two responses to one post directed to neither of you - one of those responses being a rather rude rhetorical question asking him if he is able to read by the Private Leader of these boards.
 
So it probably means to keep his chin up and to keep directing his posts to who they are intended for, especially since it is Jess and she is always very respectful.
 
Because I don't know about you, but I would feel extremely disheartened being new to the boards and having the Private Leader ask me if I am illiterate.

Well I'm pretty sure when you post on a public forum anyone can respond to it whether you're specifically talking to them or not. Don't act like you've never responded to a post that wasn't directed at you before. The point is this conversation has been going on for a while now and it's annoying to watch a person jump in when they clearly haven't educated themselves on the current trajectory of said conversation.

What's the cure?

Did you actually read the conversation from the beginning before you decided to jump in asking questions about things that have already been addressed?

I don't know what she said about it but this is a super unpopular opinion. I definitely agree though. I try to see the flip side where porn empowers women but I just don't agree ..

Yeah. Like I do believe that sex workers should be protected and we should listen to them in regards to what they say will make their jobs safer but ideally I'd like to work toward a society where people don't have to engage in sex work. I guess anything could be empowering individually but I don't agree that porn empowers all women when most porn focuses solely on the pleasure of men.

I think Pamela Anderson is right about porn. It has completely warped sexuality for the worst.

Lol the most passive aggressive people never admit they're passive aggressive. I'm just regular aggressive since I don't have time to be fake.

My cousin recently killed herself and there's so much stigma against mental health in my family that it often goes undiagnosed and unchecked. We had no idea she was even depressed because she was the type to never want to show her vulnerabilities. She always prided herself on being the strong one who was always willing to take care of everyone around her. Like Ladida said, you never know what anyone is going through and how your words can affect them. It may just be ~political correctness~ to you but I don't think there's such thing as being too invested in things like mental health. Especially in a country where people rarely are able to get the help they truly need and often turn to the Internet to cope.

As I said before, you are way too close to this. You're reacting with religious fervor in the name of political correctness. 
It was a joke. Fuck.
 
Chances are he's going to interact with people that are not all going to live. If wants to develop a sense of humor to cope with it, leave him be.

Just because you are unaffected by ableism doesn't mean that Coops is wrong for emotionally reacting to it. Idk why you guys continue with this farce that in order for a debate to be valid both sides must be as emotionally detached as possible. It makes no sense .

Aren't there private areas that she could?

Anyway, I guess I really shouldn't even have posted. I'm nowhere close to the fathering mindset right now, so I assume my point of view on this is very immature. I'd delete my posts if they weren't already quoted. Didn't think my opinion on what my future hypothetical wife does would be a point of contention.

 

It really depends on where you are. Sometimes there aren't private areas available. I'm just telling you to get ready because once you watch a bloody mucus covered skin sac come out of her vagina you're probably not gonna give that much of a damn about her tits. I'm just saying, prepare yourself now.