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Posted by Ladida on 05 September 2016 - 11:09 AM

Happy birthday, Emily!  :happybday:

#1991983 Do you hate the new school year yet?

Posted by Ladida on 01 September 2016 - 06:40 PM

I felt so pressed for time you know? because I'm still young and I have to take advantage of it and all that stuff. 


But I mean if people are doing it in their 40's even. Maybe I shouldn't be stressing myself out about it so much. 

Absolutely :) At my University, it's not at all strange to see people in their 30s and 40s starting their undergrad. Due to their circumstances in life, a lot of them were unable to dedicate time to study for whatever reason - money, domestic problems, personal problems. They are so proud to be at University now, and they have life experience that the tiny 18 year old tots don't have. It's such a pleasure talking to them, because they can offer really good advice for the working world, and life in general as they've experienced so much already. It's incredibly admirable for them to be there too, as they all work full-time, and have families by now. I used to think people were all done with University by the time their were in their mid-twenties. Seeing these brave students was such an eye-opening experience.


I'm 28 and I'm the youngest in my MSc.. Everyone else is 30s-60s, yes 60s! And let me tell you, it sucks because they have so much more knowledge and experience than I do, and we're graded on the Bell Curve so I cannot catch a break :p But it's been amazing, I've learnt so much from them that I wouldn't have if I was surrounded with other young'uns like myself.


Don't stress about it :) Education is not restricted to the young. As well, it's highly doubtful that anyone's even going to ask you your age, if you were feeling self-conscious about that. Everyone will just be trying to make it out of the programme in one piece :p

#1990547 This is a beauty post!

Posted by Ladida on 17 August 2016 - 10:01 PM

*obsessively lurks thread*


I've never bothered much about makeup growing up. It was against the rules to wear any in high school, and I just didn't care to wear makeup during university. In the working world, every other woman that I work with wears makeup, and it's really well done so I'm starting to feel awkward going around barefaced. I didn't have the greatest skin either (til a month ago!) since I never learnt how to care for it.


For facial skincare, I recently discovered the facial brush. I have the Olay ProX, and this thing is the best thing I have ever put on my face. Seriously. Washing my face with my hands just didn't cut it, but with the facial brush, the number of pimples I've had popping up has gone from around 20 to 2. It. Is. AMAZING. I swear, if you have oily skin, you're almost 30, and you're tired of looking like you're going through puberty, this is a godsend. I use Clean and Clear Morning Burst Shine Control Facial Cleaner every day with the facial brush. I also use Biore Deep Pore Charcoal Cleanser at intervals because it's nice, and Benzoyl Peroxide soap during oily episodes.


I've tried mascara, but my eyes are weird. Eyeliner makes them look ridiculously small, and anytime I've used eyeliner or mascara, it smudges throughout the day and I end up with hideous racoon eyes. Waterproof mascara is fine, but I'm afraid that's a bit too harsh on my lashes. I use Maybelline's The Falsies Volum Express, but that scoop brush pisses me off. I'm definitely looking for suggestions for mascara. And really, I would like to make the peepers look bigger somehow. Maybe eyeshadow would work? A specific colour? The Neocodex Beauty Gurus will know! I don't do anything with the brows apart from shaping them from time to time. Nothing drastic, just yanking out a few errant eyebrow hairs here and there.


I have the cream foundation from The Body Shop, along with their concealer pencil, all-in-one base powder, and their compact powder. I rarely use any of them other than the cream foundation. I don't wear any makeup during breakouts - which was happening a lot the last few years. Hopefully I can go back to that now!


I need lipstick suggestions. I have no idea what I'm doing in that area at all. Do you need pencils? Do you put the pencil everywhere? I've seen people outline and I've seen people colour it all in. Help! I only use shimmery nude lipstick because I'm self-conscious about not doing it right. I would like to try a bolder colour some day though.. I've also tried Maybelline's Baby Lips tinted balms. Worst things I have EVER used! They are so ridiculously drying and not moisturizing in the least. Even normal Blistex seemed to be backfiring on me. Now I've converted back to Vaseline, and they sell it in these adorable tiny tubs too!


Melasma runs in my family, so I'm going to be slathering on the sunscreen from now on. Neutrogena made these greasy, GREASY sunscreens about 20 years ago when I first started using them. That shit used to make me extremely tanned, even more than when I wasn't wearing it at all. It wasn't blocking the sun, it was instead focusing it on me and turning me into a fried mess. I think that was for the sun worshippers who are sitting on the beach trying to get a tan. I stopped using it altogether, but now I'm seeing that they have a greaseless formula out which seems really good. SPF 45 and 100 and crazy number like that.


I sparingly use nail polish.. I go for Rimmel and LA Colors.. Rimmel is the best brand I have ever used, and LA Colors does a good job for their extremely cheap price. I've never used anything high end, so I have nothing to compare them against.


Damn this is long


TL;DR: I'm a newbie, spill your beauty secrets!

#1989942 Euthanasia

Posted by Ladida on 11 August 2016 - 08:18 PM

My friend's uncle killed himself just yesterday, leaving behind his wife and two little girls.. Hearing his two daughters repeatedly asking "When is papa coming home?" was one of the most heartbreaking things I have ever encountered. Another friend's mother killed herself a few years back, I still remember receiving the call.. My best friend killed himself a few years back as well.. And someone did actually tell him to try harder right before his final successful attempt (as he had tried more than one).. That person felt guilty as Hell, and almost got charged for encouraging him to kill himself. Attempting suicide and assisting someone's suicide are both illegal here, and having prior knowledge of a suicide and not informing authorities apparently falls under the latter. My best friend's parents told the police not to press charges, so he was spared. I have no idea if the charge would have actually stuck though. These situations, especially the latest one, have definitely made me more sensitive to jokes about suicide. I don't expect others to change their behaviour regarding how they approach me regarding this issue, but I do appreciate it very much if they are considerate of my feelings and the current situation. 


Just two days ago I saw someone post on Facebook saying that people who want to kill themselves should do it and stop wasting his time (whut). I do deal with depression, and I do find these kinds of statements to be in poor taste, but I don't react strongly to them if they are made by people I don't know. I also get that people react differently and have different types of humour, and since I have no idea who most of the people I talk to online are, I can't judge whether they're joking or not (@Kaddict said he was joking though, the Facebook guy wasn't joking so I blocked him). If I feel disturbed or triggered by something someone has posted, I tend not to read any more of their writing, as I'm likely not emotionally connected with that person anyway and I don't see the point of letting their opinions make me uncomfortable and potentially start a downward spiral. I wasn't disturbed by @Kaddict , as he explicitly stated he was joking, albeit with a dark sense of humour. I disagreed with the #Triggered part though, because this kind of thing really can trigger people, which is why I put a part of my post in spoiler tags. I've also read enough of @cara 's posts to see she's pretty level-headed, and it was clear that her joke was, in fact, a joke.


Everyone says "This is the interwebs, everyone should have a thick skin if they want to be on it", but that isn't the case. I agree with @Coops. A bit of empathy goes a long way, as we have no idea whether anyone on Codex is currently vulnerable or not. Most likely, someone is. This doesn't mean we have to be politically correct, but it also doesn't mean we have to be dicks just because we're on the interwebs either. So I can empathize with @Coops for reacting the way she did, because I understand where she's coming from, and I can also empathize with @Kaddict and @cara , because I can understand that people deal with issues differently (in this case, with dark humour). As @Kaddict did state that he would never actually feel that way towards a patient, I will have to take his word for it, but the sad truth is that many people, doctors included, do feel that way about their mental health patients, and treat them as second-class citizens who are unworthy of their time and attention. So if someone is upset because they have encountered a dismissive doctor or person who doesn't respect a patient due to their mental health issues, I can empathize with them too.


TL;DR: Be empathetic. The world will be better for it.

#1988177 Public breastfeeding shaming

Posted by Ladida on 26 July 2016 - 12:25 PM

I agree that modesty doesn't necessarily equate to shame (ie I tend to cover up and dislike wearing shorts because of the amount of skin shown, but not because I am ashamed of my body in any way shape or form).


But, you are still comparing feces with food. One is natural to be repulsed by as it is toxic to humans. The other is only repulsive to you because breasts have been sexualized.

This perfectly expressed what I wanted to say. I had held off because I had no idea how to phrase it so calmly :)

#1988110 How do you feel about plastic surgery?

Posted by Ladida on 26 July 2016 - 06:27 AM

I can understand a parent being offended, because they usually think their kids look perfect (once they aren't deformed in any way) :) Moreso if you inherited her features, and have decided you don't want them anymore :p That doesn't mean you have to stick with something you're not comfortable with just because they want you to look like them. They might also not want to see you having surgery for something superficial, since all surgeries come with risks. Some might feel that having elective surgery on such a visible part of the body will result in obvious scarring, and would be difficult to cover up if it's not done well.


I don't see anything wrong with plastic surgery. I'm of the opinion that someone should only go under the knife if they absolutely must, and the factors influencing that are extremely personal and usually highly significant to the individual. I want to point out that this does not mean that others believe your nose is too Jewish, and even if they do, their opinions should not influence your decision in any way.


You're a responsible adult capable of weighing the risks that any surgery carries, and you would be aware that the outcome of the surgery could be fantastic, or a botched job. If you do decide to get the surgery done, make sure you shop around for surgeons, find out how their previous patients were treated post-op, whether their concerns were addressed, whether they received good post-op care or were ditched. If you're not comfortable with your plastic surgeon's consultation for any reason (e.g. you feel as though they're bsing their way through it, brushing off your concerns, not being clear about the procedure), do not let him/her operate on you. There's a forum called PurseBlog that has a section dedicated to plastic surgery, with people talking about their experiences, and the names of surgeons they went to (both good and bad).


I don't know if any of your friends or family have ever had plastic surgery. If so, then they would be great sources of information. Otherwise, try and gather as much information as you can, do your research, talk to people online who have had the surgery. If you don't have a good plastic surgeon that you can go to, don't rush into it by using whoever is available. It's worth the wait.

#1983099 Baby Kougra Alert

Posted by Ladida on 25 June 2016 - 10:59 PM

Two more added if anyone needs them (found them on Jellyneo :))

#1981114 Ask LGBT+ people anything!

Posted by Ladida on 18 June 2016 - 09:05 PM

I tried to think of a relevant question, but I can't think of any.. Because in my eyes, people are people. Their wants, needs, preferences are their own. I can't imagine having to justify why I have certain innate biological preferences, and be looked down upon because they aren't in line with society's views. I couldn't think of a question, because everyone - regardless of their preferences - are human, just like I am. But I guess I have to ask you something! :p What's the weather like? :p


Major support to our LGBT+ community on Codex, I hope you continue having the strength to be who you are <3

#1978912 Tell me something bad that happened to you today.

Posted by Ladida on 10 June 2016 - 03:42 PM

Alright so I'm intering with a friend and director who's also teaching. As part of the internship I'm assisting him in his classes. Today his students fucked up - badly. They made him so angry he walked out of class and ended the lesson early. I had to go as well, since he ordered me to come with him.

I've always been so much on the same page with him but this really didn't feel like the right thing to do. I can't change anything about it, since it already happened and I can't speak up against him in front of his students, so it's not really advice I'm looking for... just curious, have you ever had a teacher walk out on you? It just feels like we're abandoning the students who ARE doing their best because of some bad apples, and it feels terrible.

Usually when lecturers threaten to walk out, they're banking on angry good students to keep the unruly ones in line. For the most part, this usually works, because the lecturer comes off as stern but not an asshole since the good students are the ones shutting down the people who are disrupting the class. I have had a lecturer walk out of the class, because well into the semester, students were still not abiding by the rules he had established for his classroom. However, it was expected of the student who caused the walkout to immediately go to the lecturer's office to apologize for being disrespectful. If the student didn't give a fuck and peer pressure didn't make the student apologize, a group of students was expected to go and apologize for their classmate's behaviour. I can understand why your friend walked out, especially if he felt he was wasting his time. Sometimes, it's better to remove oneself from the situation, especially if he felt he wouldn't be able to control his words. Maybe this was the kick in the butt those students needed in order to get themselves together. For some reason, in many instances, I have found that students respect stern lecturers, and not the friendly ones. I suppose they respect someone who puts their foot down. I hope they are better behaved from now on.

Also, I just wanted to add that we didn't feel abandoned. We realized that the consequences were real and swift, and that kept the rest of us on our best behaviour from that point on.

#1978359 Codex 2017 Meetup

Posted by Ladida on 09 June 2016 - 06:18 PM

Plus West Ed lets their penguins take strolls around the mall. I really want to see that!

#1776148 SSing Newer Games?

Posted by Ladida on 25 June 2014 - 08:34 PM

Not sure why you think Assignment 53 is Shockwave, nitro. It's Flash.




iomega found an AOB for it soon after release.

And just in case, taken from their facebook page:


"Neopets If the game is running slow for you, try upgrading to the latest version of Flash (v11.3)

#1711232 How to improve someone's stay while healing from accident?

Posted by Ladida on 19 January 2014 - 04:28 PM

I had to go through this lovely experience a year ago (as the care giver). If she can rent a wheelchair, that would be the best and safest way to get around, especially since she's banged up everywhere and holding onto crutches would be difficult with the broken finger and stitched pinky.


I've also been told that walkers are much stabler than crutches which can slip out from under your arm, or the elbow crutches which can break more bones if you fall with it. With her injured fingers, putting all her weight on her hands might not be a good thing.


I don't know if she'd feel like doing anything much, she might still be mentally dazed. Her best bet might be doing things that don't require much thinking or effort. Maybe watching her favourite shows?


Visiting her and doing some tidying up helps a LOT, getting her shopping done or anything she has to go out for would definitely be appreciated too. Is she living with someone who would ensure she's eating well and take care of her needs?


As a friend, you could let her know that she can count on you whenever she needs. Just giving her a call every now and then to let her know she's not forgotten. She may not want to have a conversation probably because she's mentally exhausted from this whole ordeal, but she'd feel worse if people stopped reaching out to her.


I'm not sure what material things you can give her, the dry shampoo sounds great. For bathing, I got a hose from the hardware store and attached it to the faucet and used that instead of the shower. I also got air fresheners and sprayed them regularly so that the house would smell fresh so the person wouldn't feel self-conscious about not being able to have a proper shower and perhaps not smelling that great.

#1676046 Angelina Jolie undergoes Double Mastectomy

Posted by Ladida on 21 June 2013 - 09:30 PM

I'm sorry, but I think it's irresponsible. If you have a high chance of breast cancer, you go in every year to get checked. You don't just get them lopped off and then expect to be a savior.


Sounds like you're jelly of Angelina. You can always keep your wo/man boobs, but don't expect your ignorant, uneducated opinion to change the minds of people who actually value their health, their families and their peace of mind enough to undergo a potentially life-saving procedure. I've seen enough relatives die, thankfully my mom didn't, and I would "lob" mine off in a heartbeat if I tested positive and if the probability of getting breast cancer was high. I'd take that over the chemo any day, thanks. Sounds like you need to visit some cancer patients.

#1673253 Tangible Books vs eBooks

Posted by Ladida on 13 June 2013 - 10:31 PM

I hope not. I've lost a lot of stuff due to my various storage media corrupting. Had no idea optical discs could rot. I've lost track of how many times my phone died on me losing everything, hard drives, flash drives, media cards, optical discs.. So now I've reached a point where I only trust physical copies of anything.


I prefer reading tangible books. I love the feel, smell of them, I like turning pages, I like shoving a pretty bookmark to save the spot. I like knowing I'm reaching the last page and then closing the book rather than with ebooks where I don't keep track of the pages and suddenly the book is abruptly over without warning. I've forever been a paper book junkie. For studying, I still choose physical books because they help me remember things better when I visualize the page.

#1661833 A shovel

Posted by Ladida on 24 April 2013 - 06:57 PM

I have a shovel. I use it to dig holes.