Nentusia

First off al, it's really very generous what you are doing here. It's inconvenient for you, and even if it wasn't it is still such a huge help for your friend and surely not everyone would act like this.

And here's the deal; he does not realize it.

If he was grateful/thankful for this and would do his best to achieve his goal as soon as possible, everything would be alright. But with his current behaviour, it's just exploiting you.

If he lived in his own house/apartment, then it would be his own decision, yes.

But after he has much fewer costs while staying with you, I think it's not acceptable and it's sad that it's even coming up.

I would definitely bring it up in a conversation. I don't know what a type of person he is and how he'll react (if he's a defensive type who'll shut down, it won't be much effective I assume).

Still I would point out to him that you really are doing him a big favour, that it's inconvenient and risky for you, that you love helping him out but that his actions are not correct.

(and by the way, he's not even helping with cleaning, cooking or something like that? Come on!)

Depending on the type of person he is, you should consider his way to react in discussions and either confront him directly, or bring it up slowly. If you make him feel guilty it could either give you the results you want, or he gets angry and shuts down.

But he either has to leave or pay more rent. And fuck it if he has money to travel around, he has money to pay the normal amount for a rent. That's it!

Oh, I see. Okay, compared to that, I wouldn't even count as "curvy"   I hope I get the chance to ask around more.

It's so much easier when I get to simply ask guys what they want/like/prefer instead of talking to my girlfriends about what might possibly the case.

Especially after girls often sugarcoat stuff (and talk about your back afterwards)

And the more opinions, the better. So whoever would like to contribute to it, please do! I'm still curious!

 

I don't cheat.

Unless it's with you on my girlfriend 

 

That was a joke.

I like your humour. I guess that'd get funny

Well I live in Münster, you can google it and look whether it'd be interesting or not. I have space here, so that'd be no problem (especially because my parents won't be here). I'm moving around that time into my own place, but I'll just have a room in an apartment I'm sharing with 3 other people and that place is also quite uninteresting. Münster is more interesting then
And I'm living close to the Netherlands so we could get there as well I guess.

Face.

Although...there is such a thing as "too" curvy.

If I may ask, what would you consider as "too curvy"?

I've been generally wondering about this.. I lost some weight the last 2 years (about 10kg / 22lb) but I'm still thicker than most of my friends. And I'm actually quite jealous about their bodies, even though most of them are actually underweight (but underweight is kind of the normal weight now..)

And I've always wondered how much it actually matters to guys.

I don't want a sugarcoated answer ~all bodies are beautiful~ I can handle it if I'm not skinny enough for some random guy (excuse me that I'm just at a normal weight ), it's just that those few guys I've asked all said they don't really care but they a) have all superskinny girlfriends and/or b) are not the type of person who would dare to actually say something "offensive" out loud.

So, open question to all of you, what would you consider still curvy, what would already be unappealing? Could you maybe post an example of pictures? I'd love to get some answers for comparison

 

Size always matters.

But seriously. I live in the (rather north -west) of Germany, close to Holland. I have no clue if that area is interesting for you (if you were going to visit Germany, cities like Cologne, Hamburg or Berlin would be more adviceable but also several hours away from me, so.. ). But if you happen to be around that area, I'd surely consider giving a fellow Codexian a place to sleep

(Even though.. after we're a bunch of cheaters, is that really such a great idea? yes, yes it is.)