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[Syntax]

I once ordered Mcdonald delivery because I was too lazy to wash my dirty dishes... that's so far the worst example of my laziness.

[Fikri]

during the my semester break, whenever my sister left her son with me for work, i'd just let him cry to sleep.

Edited by Stuck, 14 March 2014 - 09:56 PM.

[Applepi]

during the my semester break, whenever my sister left her son with me for work, i'd just let him cry to sleep.

 

OMG poor kid How old is he? 

[Dan]

during the my semester break, whenever my sister left her son with me for work, i'd just let him cry to sleep.

 
 

OMG poor kid How old is he?

 

It's not as bad as it sounds. Sometimes it's best to leave a baby to cry (assuming the Stuck's nephew is a baby, of course ).

[Applepi]

@Dan I was assuming not a baby, but I just realized Stuck never said. That's a really interesting article though! 

[Applepi]

The CIO (cry it out) method is very controversial among parents and a heated subject often brought into the "mommy wars". I've personally never done it but I think it's totally fine. If that's what works for your family, awesome. I assume stuck's nephew is a baby too, I'd have to say if not that could be mentally scarring for the child depending on how long he left them to cry Though I'd never let someone else's child cry it out unless the parent exclusively requested it. 

 

I haven't really heard much about it so its really interesting to see the different sides. I dont even want to think about the emotional damage one could do to an older child (meaning older than infant age) by letting them cry to sleep! I watched a video a while back showing the effects of ignoring a child's pleas for attention and it was heart breaking. Within an hour, the child went from being bubbly and happy to dejected and isolated. 

[GhostMommy]

How could you sleep with a baby crying, normal humans are hard wired to react to a crying child? 

[Dan]

I figured the "cry-it-out" method's main purpose would be to teach the baby that you're not always going to be there to fix their problems, and they should really grow up and deal with the fact that they don't understand life yet. And to stop being such a crybaby.

[Trichomes]

I have an early memory of my parents ignoring me while I cried myself to sleep. I remember laying in bed sobbing until I started hyperventilating, and screaming until my throat was raw. I must have been around 3 and I shared a bedroom with my infant sister at the time, so my parents were definitely able to keep tabs on us from the other end of the house with the baby monitor, but for whatever reason they never came to check on me. I don't actually recall what I was freaking out about in the first place, so it was probably nothing, but I guess it was traumatic enough for me to remember the incident 20 years later. I had issues with separation anxiety as a kid, starting around the time my sister was born, so it's likely that being left alone to cry myself to sleep triggered a panic attack.

 

How could you sleep with a baby crying, normal humans are hard wired to react to a crying child? 

 

You tune it out. It really isn't that difficult.

Edited by Trichomes, 15 March 2014 - 10:54 AM.

[Applepi]

I have an early memory of my parents ignoring me while I cried myself to sleep. I remember laying in bed sobbing until I started hyperventilating, and screaming until my throat was raw. I must have been around 3 and I shared a bedroom with my infant sister at the time, so my parents were definitely able to keep tabs on us from the other end of the house with the baby monitor, but for whatever reason they never came to check on me. I don't actually recall what I was freaking out about in the first place, so it was probably nothing, but I guess it was traumatic enough for me to remember the incident 20 years later. I had issues with separation anxiety as a kid, starting around the time my sister was born, so it's likely that being left alone to cry myself to sleep triggered a panic attack.

 

 

Sounds horrible! I've never had a true panic attack, just anxiety, but it would be very traumatic to go through that ordeal as a child.  I agree with what Kate said about not letting the child cry for more than 10-15 minutes. 

 

EDIT: @Kate, I don't think worrying about your children's mental well-beings makes you weak willed at all! 

Edited by Applepi, 15 March 2014 - 11:00 AM.

[Trichomes]

Now that I think about it, it's possible that I was sent to my room as a punishment. It would explain my crying, and why my parents didn't react to my tantrum. I'm guessing it really did happen at night, and I must have worn myself out and fallen asleep. My parents probably weren't monsters after all.

 

Unfortunately that doesn't negate the likelihood that what I experienced was a panic reaction. I only just made the connection as I was writing up my last post that the feelings I was describing are what I now recognize as having an anxiety attack.

 

Edit: We're pretty off topic. I was almost too lazy to edit this.

Edited by Trichomes, 15 March 2014 - 01:14 PM.

[Fikri]

OMG poor kid How old is he? 

 

he's 2.

 

The CIO (cry it out) method is very controversial among parents and a heated subject often brought into the "mommy wars". I've personally never done it but I think it's totally fine. If that's what works for your family, awesome. I assume stuck's nephew is a baby too, I'd have to say if not that could be mentally scarring for the child depending on how long he left them to cry Though I'd never let someone else's child cry it out unless the parent exclusively requested it. 

 

there's a name for it? wow, i guess i do have some parenting skills. i do love my nephew, btw, but sometimes he just cry for no reason. it's really frustrating.

[Cycholon]

I have been suffering from Shingles recently despite being a 15-year-old guy, yet I was forbidden to go to school. What I could do is only sleep , sleep and sleep, maybe two third of a day lying on the bed for over a week, so as to increase my immunity, though the main reason is that I have nothing to do at all at the moment. The tragedy is that my desk at my school must have collapsed under my mountain of homework left for 10 days. It would be a nightmare after all. Neither had I gone out of my house the past 10 days. 

[Turnip]

I have been suffering from Shingles recently despite being a 15-year-old guy, yet I was forbidden to go to school. What I could do is only sleep , sleep and sleep, maybe two third of a day lying on the bed for over a week, so as to increase my immunity, though the main reason is that I have nothing to do at all at the moment. The tragedy is that my desk at my school must have collapsed under my mountain of homework left for 10 days. It would be a nightmare after all. Neither had I gone out of my house the past 10 days. 

 

Aaahhhh oh my god that sounds awful ;_; At least you have a reason to be lazy!! I hope you start feeling all better soon~ ^^ Also I love your avatar!!

[Cycholon]

Thank you. The wounds were stinging so I am "lying" on my bed instead of "sleeping" in exact. 

 

My avatar ought to be a .gif animation but it exceeds the 100KB limit though. 

 

http://i.imgur.com/4aOOV.gif

Edited by Cycholon, 15 March 2014 - 10:35 PM.

[Applepi]

I have been suffering from Shingles recently despite being a 15-year-old guy, yet I was forbidden to go to school. What I could do is only sleep , sleep and sleep, maybe two third of a day lying on the bed for over a week, so as to increase my immunity, though the main reason is that I have nothing to do at all at the moment. The tragedy is that my desk at my school must have collapsed under my mountain of homework left for 10 days. It would be a nightmare after all. Neither had I gone out of my house the past 10 days. 

 

gosh that sounds horrible!! I've met several people who have had shingles who said it was the most uncomfortable and in pain they've ever felt. I hope you're starting to feel better! 

[GhostMommy]

Oh no!  Did you get the vaccine?  My father had them a few years ago, like five nasty sores from the side of his rib cage to the sternum.  That must really suck.

[Applepi]

Oh no!  Did you get the vaccine?  My father had them a few years ago, like five nasty sores from the side of his rib cage to the sternum.  That must really suck.

 

The vaccine is typically not even considered until the person is around 50 years old. Shingles doesn't normally happen in young people. 

[Cub]

For the last few weekends (other than today) I didnt leave my bed and basically played neopets all day. 

Also another one is go through a drive-thru to grab a fork (not the original one that I bought the food from either, another one) because I was too lazy to go inside.