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[Random]

Kick them out of your house immediately. What a piece of shit! You're going out of your way to help him and he has the indecency to spend money on a trip?

 

Your family works hard - he and his girlfriend don't. They are inconsiderate to you and yours. Fuck him. 

[Dan]

2 weeks all inclusive to Turkey for £2k?

 

Is he chartering a plane?

[anewvision]

Give em the boot...

 

In situations like this it's good to have a deadline from the very beginning just to keep the pressure on and prevent freeloading, but it's too late for that

[Frizzle]

Who spends £2k on a trip to turkey. I went to amsterdam for 4 nights and it only cost me £250.


Tell him to cancel the holiday or move out at the end of the month.

[Dan]

Who spends £2k on a trip to turkey. I went to amsterdam for 4 nights and it only cost me £250.


Tell him to cancel the holiday or move out at the end of the month.

 

I was hoping you'd weigh in here - £2k is insane.

 

You're talking £700-800 for 2 weeks all inclusive.

[Frizzle]

Bare in mind a two week trip to Madagascar cost 4k and a two week trip two Vegas cost around the 2k mark if you stay in a penthouse suite in the bellagio.

[Waser Lave]

And a week at Butlin's is like £200. If he's actually saving up for a deposit that's the kind of holiday price range he should have been looking at.

[Frizzle]

And a week at Butlin's is like £200. If he's actually saving up for a deposit that's the kind of holiday price range he should have been looking at.

 

I'd rather get raped.

[NapisaurusRex]

My plan for my sister once i get tired of living with her is to gradually raise rent and blame her electricity usage til she gets pissed and moves out.

[Nentusia]

First off al, it's really very generous what you are doing here. It's inconvenient for you, and even if it wasn't it is still such a huge help for your friend and surely not everyone would act like this.

And here's the deal; he does not realize it.

 

If he was grateful/thankful for this and would do his best to achieve his goal as soon as possible, everything would be alright. But with his current behaviour, it's just exploiting you.

If he lived in his own house/apartment, then it would be his own decision, yes.

But after he has much fewer costs while staying with you, I think it's not acceptable and it's sad that it's even coming up.

 

I would definitely bring it up in a conversation. I don't know what a type of person he is and how he'll react (if he's a defensive type who'll shut down, it won't be much effective I assume).

Still I would point out to him that you really are doing him a big favour, that it's inconvenient and risky for you, that you love helping him out but that his actions are not correct.

(and by the way, he's not even helping with cleaning, cooking or something like that? Come on!)

 

Depending on the type of person he is, you should consider his way to react in discussions and either confront him directly, or bring it up slowly. If you make him feel guilty it could either give you the results you want, or he gets angry and shuts down.

 

But he either has to leave or pay more rent. And fuck it if he has money to travel around, he has money to pay the normal amount for a rent. That's it!