26 replies to this topic

[Sean]

Go with the girl dude. She will be with you (hopefully) for the rest of your life, while drugs will not. Would you rather be a druggy, or with a wonderful girl who you love? I would choose the latter.

[Kitchwa]

I know you said you want to try every single drug, but if you really loved her and she wanted you to stop, I think you should.
In return it would make her happy and keep your relationship strong

I haven't been much help, but I just threw in my thoughs

[Warlord]

Drugs won't care about you or love you or anything, stick with the girl. Show some freaking willpower man. You'll be better for it

On a simlar note: I thought you gave up drugs? what gives?

[Waser Lave]

Try to compromise to at least alcohol, i think it would be completely unreasonable to not allow you that when it's hardly a drug compared to some of the other stuff you've done. I can understand her views about the hard drugs though, they'll just ruin your life and possibly hers if she stays with you through it.

STAY CLEAN!

[Bryan]

If you're really in love, talk to her, and explain it to her. If she truly loves you, she'll eventually (though not willingly) let you do what you want.

True love never dies. And true love is not telling people what to do with their lives.

[dolphinbomb]

I have to agree with Sean, here.

While I have nothing against people using drugs, I tend to believe that it is a rather frivolous and expensive way to waste your life

From what you've told me of this girl, it sounds like she really loves you, and I think that in the long run, you'd be better off with her.

Though I have to agree, the "no drinking" part is a rather unrealistic expectation. Drinking is fine, as long as it's in moderation.

[Gen]

Go with the girl dude. She will be with you (hopefully) for the rest of your life, while drugs will not. Would you rather be a druggy, or with a wonderful girl who you love? I would choose the latter.

Actually the drugs will leave him to the rest of he life...very short, actually o.õ
And well, must to say that THE GIRL!
Drugs=Blow up you life
She=Make you life look like heaven(probably)

So, go with she =)

[Charlie Hustle]

This is such an interesting topic, good ole master shake is gonna say a few words (anyone remember him?) anywyas dont let me steal netbus's topic. Cody the way I see it you could make this a winning situation. I understand your goal about sampling every drug, but honestly is it something worth risking your entire relationship for? Personally I believe thast special someone can take you higher than any drug. ANd think about it this way if it doesnt work out you can get right back on track with your personal goal of sampling everythign

[Kitchwa]

I remember you shake

I think everyone has the same opinions on what you should do cody

[Plew]

If you're really in love, talk to her, and explain it to her. If she truly loves you, she'll eventually (though not willingly) let you do what you want.

True love never dies. And true love is not telling people what to do with their lives.

Wow thats deep.

No Drinking I cant live with out drinking. but go with the girl if u really like her

[padora]

She should respect your values and priorities but also understand that she has to make a compromise as well. There should be no lose-win, it should end with a compromise. Try to get her to understand your viewpoint about drugs.

[juju]

If you're really in love, talk to her, and explain it to her. If she truly loves you, she'll eventually (though not willingly) let you do what you want.

True love never dies. And true love is not telling people what to do with their lives.

She should respect your values and priorities but also understand that she has to make a compromise as well. There should be no lose-win, it should end with a compromise. Try to get her to understand your viewpoint about drugs.

Mmhm agreed. They beat me to it.

But yeah, just really try talking to her. If it boils down to her or drugs, definitely go with her.

[foogie]

dude. she's worried about you, and what your drug use is doing (and will continue to do) to your body.

an ultimatum like that is sensible, and I highly suggest you go with it.
it's a small price to pay, and it's definietly a road you should have taken a long time ago anyways.

[Kyle]

Try to compromise a "lets drink, but only together" or something like that. If that doesn't work, chose her over everything.

[nox]

can't say what i would do because i probably would never come to that point in a relationship to where my girlfriend doesn't trust me//has to take control of my life; but i really would talk it over with her, try to compromise. i couldn't see myself agreeing to anything of the sort, especially if i know how to control myself (which you recently seem to be able to do), but also i couldn't picture losing my current girlfriend.

if it really comes down to one or the other, i hope you make the decision that's right for you .

[Redblade]

Try to compromise to at least alcohol, i think it would be completely unreasonable to not allow you that when it's hardly a drug compared to some of the other stuff you've done. I can understand her views about the hard drugs though, they'll just ruin your life and possibly hers if she stays with you through it.

STAY CLEAN!

Agree. Alcohol cant be as bad as drugs, can it? Perhaps you could try discussing about the limits on how much is the maximum intake you should take. May be a bottle or 2 per week?
Slowly and slowly, you could cut down, may be to 1 per week as time passes by. If not, perhaps you could substitute it with another drink instead, such as wine which is healthier when consumed at moderate ?

dude. she's worried about you, and what your drug use is doing (and will continue to do) to your body.

an ultimatum like that is sensible, and I highly suggest you go with it.
it's a small price to pay, and it's definietly a road you should have taken a long time ago anyways.

QFE.

[Tetiel]

If you're really in love, talk to her, and explain it to her. If she truly loves you, she'll eventually (though not willingly) let you do what you want.

True love never dies. And true love is not telling people what to do with their lives.

And if he really loved her more than he loves drugs he'd give those up. Honestly it really goes both ways.

Really Cody... I'm sorry but I'm going to be blunt. Giving up the girl you've loved for YEARS to just go off and do drugs I think could be one of the worst mistakes ever. Let's see... on one hand you have something that temporarily will make you feel good and on the other hand you also have a woman that who knows... you could spend the rest of your life with her. I have talked with you and I know you guys have had your differences and I know it's been problematic but think about it. You say that if you give up that dream of trying every drug you'd feel a bit empty inside but hasn't she also been a dream of yours too? Wouldn't you feel even worse if you lost her forever? The thing is... drugs are a temporary thing that makes you feel better for a short time but to have someone who truly loves you is a thing that will make you feel better AND last forever.

I don't know if you truly love her or not really and I'm not going to bug you about it beyond this but it's just really something to just consider. Oh yes, I wouldn't give her an answer for at least a week because well... you might want to think long and hard before you make a decision.

[Justin]

Haha.. I think its funny how some of you act like it's just that simple and easy. Obviously if Cody could just say "Oh! FUX DRUGS" he would. But it's not that easy. Honestly Cody, she is being kind of unreasonable. You probably shouldn't talk to her about it though. You'll give her the feeling of "He can't choose drugs over me?" but at the same time, it really dosen't sound like she knows how you feel about this... So I can't really offer an advice but you can hit me up on MSN and talk to me about it, if you want.

[Raui]

Cody I hope this gets to you before its too late but dude you've gotta go with the girl. The way you talk about her and what you tell us about your times together shes the one you want to spend the rest of your days with. You've got the rest of your life ahead of you and if I were in your shoes I'd be choosing the girl. I know how hard its gonna be but remember Cody you've got all of us by your side, willing to talk to you whenever you want. Tell her you will ease off the drugs because you want to be with her. Its going to be hard I know but if you truly love her, do it.

Just remember Cody Love > Drugs

[foogie]

Just remember Cody Love > Drugs

AND YOU CAN'T HAVE SEX WITH A DRUG!!

Edited by foogie, 16 January 2007 - 03:56 AM.

[Tetiel]

Okay goooooooood, thought that you were having the decision of... yeah. Stuff. And yes, good question.. why ARE people pro-alcohol and not pro-other drugs as well or vice versa. Honestly... alcohol is just as bad as some other drugs like... any other depressant, really. As far as I'm concerned when taken at a certain level... perscription or non, both are rather bad for you and your liver *shrugs*

[Sweeney]

Gah, I keep thinking Tet is Rush x_X

Anyway.
I would have said to go with the drugs.
As long as you can afford them, drugs will never leave you for the promise of a better life elsewhere. They'll never cheat on you... never even give you a glimmer of a doubt that it was even possible that they cheated on you.
Drugs can give you the same feelings as being in love anyway...

As you yourself have said... they're all the same chemicals. What does it matter of the source?

[Niche]

As a side note, why are so many of you pro-alcohol and not pro- other drugs? There are numerous drugs that are a lot healthier and safer than alcohol, a neurotoxin. Is legality the simple deciding factor in all of your descisions? Or is it that you've each done alcohol and feel it's relatively safe? What if I lived in Amsterdam, and I could eat cannabis cookies all day? The U.S. government says that's illegal and bad for my health, does that mean it is?

Just food for thought.

Cody.

I was basically gunna say what everyone else has about choosing the girl blah...reasoning about alcohol blah. In answer to your question me personally isnt agaisnt alcohol because basically I lack knowledge of drugs that are more healthy for you, also alcohol is the most common thing that teenagers (in my area) do so its almost like the whole of East London (brap! lol) has grown to accept it.

[Mumei]

Hi there,

This is going to be one of the hardest decisions you will ever make in your life - but i think the nub of the issue is this

I basically told her that I wanted her more than anything in the world

do you really mean this???

if so, it's simple change your lifestyle and hook up with the love of your life. Saying that however you WILL feel that a part of you is missing - and this feeling will never go away, you need to think of this as a mental addiction (you are addicted to the quest you have) therefore like everyone who's been addicted will tell you, it's a daily struggle that never totally goes away.

However that said - Love is also a powerful drug and can sometimes make these things worth the effort.

The only person who can make the choice is yourself, and no matter how many friends and loved ones help, it's only you that will be able to get your head around your own life. If you can live your life without her in it and you think that your quest if the most important thing in your life then that would be the choice.

however if when you were just reading that statement "live your life without her in it" it was like your heart skipped a beat then....

[Tetiel]

Gah, I keep thinking Tet is Rush x_X

Fine, fine. I'll change my avatar to my unfinished pixel art of Kairi.

...bastard