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[sonic]

Ok so this girl named kara has a boyfriend that she has been dating for like a year.
He is kind of a dick to her, and like throws her around.

I met her at a bar, she was with an old friend of mine that I went to go meet. I was in my wheelchair and she was like sitting on my lap and shit after a few beers. Kara that is.

So yea, I went home alone that night, and I was texting kara the next day. We were getting pretty personal. I thought she was pretty cool. It really turned me on that I did not fuck her the night before. lol.

So yea, we talk and she says she is most likely going to break up with her BF. I am like cool. So yea, we keep talking.
But then my friend texts me and says how much kara is digging me and stuff. Now I am not ready for another serious relationship. but I keep texting her. Everything seems cool. She gets a little more serious about talking to me even though I continue to try and calm the situation down alittle. Then I get this exact msg on myspace. "I just have this HUGE urge to tell you that you need to come over to my place and watch a scary movie with me" then I get another msg saying " God I want you here with me and I want you to sleep with me all night, naked, and I want to sing you to sleep" I am FUCKING SERIOUS. That is exactally what she said.

So I am like kinda saying, shit, maybe I should go over there, you know JUST to make sure she is ok
Then I think no, she has a BF. I have to have SOME morals. So ya, I just hang out, and text her saying My leg was really acting up and I was not up to driving. So ya.

The next day she does not really respond to my texts. I then get a myspace message from her boyfriend asking me how I know her. I say "Go away, fatass". exactally like that. He proceeds to message me.

uh why? oh thts right you think i beat her which is complete fuckin bullshit and she doesnt like you so id stop tryin she still loves me buddy. i have never put my hands on her in a negative way and i never would you dnt even fuckin know her. you guys talk about peein wow congraulations!!!

So I am like wow. I lay the smack down on this bitch.

Get the fuck out of here you stupid little meat rag. You treat her like shit, and I tried to help her out. Fuck you. It is not my fault your girl is all over my fucking nuts. Maybe you should give her the right kind of loving you limp dicked freak. Grow a pair and step up to the plate. I don't want this desperate whore. I could get 100x better than her, why would I be desperate for her? Fuck man, get a clue.!. stop talking to me.

So he responds....

pls dude jus one question. did she really txt u? or did u text her? she says it was u cuming on to her and she tried to ditch u. pls just tel me that and i will leav u alone

So I said back to him

dude, she wanted me to "cumin" on to her but I refused. Reach down really low past that vagina of yours and find that ball sack i know you have and grab that shit and tell your girlfriend to stop bothering me and focus on you!

Anyway, so I get a text from Kara saying "I fucking hate you"
I ignore her.
Then the next moring I wake up with a box full of texts from kara saying Thomas(her boyfriend) tried to commit suicide and is in the hospital. WOW. She said she misses me and if her and thomas do not work out than she NEEDS me. I just kept ignoring her.....

Now I feel bad. Should I not have told him?
WTF. I am all upside down about this.
Wierd ass people.

[Cyo]

rofl you're in a wheelchair.



j/k



Yeah you're kind of a dick.

[Cory]

It seems as if drama follows you around... You are a dick, once again in this situation. Not for how you treated him, but for even trying to start shit with her before she was out of a relationship.

[Sweeney]

tl;dr

But, yes.

[Raui]

fuck I dno wtf to say, poor guy just sounds like a guy who is really into his girl.

[Tailwind]

It honestly sounds like the chick is mental and was really just trying to start something. Or, you know, she was just really desperate to get out of that relationship, and was using you as a way to do it.

I'll admit, the way you went about trying to get out of the entire thing wasn't right, but I certainly wouldn't say you're a dick because of it. (Also, kudos for having enough morals to not accept her invitations like that. Not many men would do that.)

Edited by Tailwind, 12 March 2008 - 12:57 AM.

[sonic]

It seems as if drama follows you around... You are a dick, once again in this situation. Not for how you treated him, but for even trying to start shit with her before she was out of a relationship.

LOL, that is funny. You missed EVERYTHING. She was trying to start shit with me, much like you are now.
Everyone is right. You are a prick now that you are a mod...To think that I stood up for you. I will have to hear the "I told you so" by like 6 members now. I might as well sign out of msn so I don't have to listen to it.

It honestly sounds like the chick is mental and was really just trying to start something. Or, you know, she was just really desperate to get out of that relationship, and was using you as a way to do it.

I'll admit, the way you went about trying to get out of the entire thing wasn't right, but I certainly wouldn't say you're a dick because of it. (Also, kudos for having enough morals to not accept her invitations like that. Not many men would do that.)

Thanks for the supportive post! lol. I do not feel I was a dick for talking to the girl. She seemed cool, yet I was reluctant becuase she had a boyfriend. I guess marine did not read all that. I am asking If I am a dick for spilling the beans about his girl to him. To be honest I would like to think I did it for truth and justice, but to be honest I was just pissed she made it seem like I was the desperate one. Damn my ego.

rofl you're in a wheelchair.



j/k



Yeah you're kind of a dick.

Well yes I am in a wheelchair. I received massive trauma to my right side when an IED hit my convoy while doing a tour in Iraq.

Edited by Sonic, 12 March 2008 - 01:47 AM.

[Oaken]

I think you could have broken it to the boyfriend a little more gently. Obviously you were not to know he would react the way he did but that is why you should always think before you say something.

Apart from that I think you did alright. You told the truth, although it was pretty cold but at least you didn't try to wind him up about it. You could have said that you slept with her just to piss him off but you didn't.

I doubt that the boyfriend trying to commit suicide was just because of this one incident. It is probably a culmination of various things she has been doing.

If anything Sonic, I would say go and visit the boyfriend in hospital. She sounds a little crazy and lets face it you don't want that in your life. You could probably help the boyfriend a lot by telling him exactly what happened with you and Kara. Just be gentle with him

Hope that helps.

[sonic]

I think you could have broken it to the boyfriend a little more gently. Obviously you were not to know he would react the way he did but that is why you should always think before you say something.

Apart from that I think you did alright. You told the truth, although it was pretty cold but at least you didn't try to wind him up about it. You could have said that you slept with her just to piss him off but you didn't.

I doubt that the boyfriend trying to commit suicide was just because of this one incident. It is probably a culmination of various things she has been doing.

If anything Sonic, I would say go and visit the boyfriend in hospital. She sounds a little crazy and lets face it you don't want that in your life. You could probably help the boyfriend a lot by telling him exactly what happened with you and Kara. Just be gentle with him

Hope that helps.

Very good insight.
I can understand how him finding this out could really piss him off.

I guess he was able to use a computer, or a phone or something. This is what he messeged me.

well one more thing you said she talked to you everytime we fought is tht true? and what would she say? and were u guys flirting? im not even mad at you dude, if you guys were go ahead shes all yours

Does this sound like someone that wants to kill himself over a girl? This is what I wrote him.

Alright man.
I promised Kara I would not tell you, But fuck it. I know what it is like to be in your shoes. Well Kind of. I have never been cheated on, but I know the pain in not knowing something.

Kara and me started talking at the Octane lounge. At first I knew she had a BF so I was just casually talking to her.
Then she asked me to text her so I did. At first she was just telling me about piss. Then yea. I get told from katie that you guys got into a fight and you punched her in the face. I flipped out. I dont even know this girl and I am pissed.

So katie tries to set us up. We talk more and I grow fond of her. She seemed pretty cool. So I was kind of hitting on her you could say. We flirted alittle, but it was all harmless. I was a little turned off because she seemed so inlove with you.

Then we started talking more. Katie told me she thinks kara likes me. I did not think much of it cause we did not even meet. But we kept talking and yea, we started talking about what would happen if you two were to break up. Nothing serious.

Now here is were I get pissed off. She starts leading me on, then bamb, she stops texting me all of the sudden. Then when she starts texting me again its like short boring responses.

I get pissed off cause I blew off some other girls cause I thought me and kara would have a thing. Then she did that?

Then we talked it out. She loves you to death man. She wants more than anything to be happy with you. You just have to work on not making your problems effect her. Think about it. If you were the type of person who did not like feeling alone and you thought your relationship was going to end, wouldnt you look for something to replace it so you dont have to feel alone if you two do break up? Now she is secure in your relationship, so no need to look for alternative.

I dont know what really went on, but I know what it is like to love someone and then loose them. It is the worst pain in the world. Trust me you dont want to feel it. So lighten up. I dont know even the half of your relationship with her, I just know one thing. She seems like a great girl that loves you alot. Don't pressure her so much.

She says you have deppression. I know what that is like too. Try and control it when it comes to kara, and just realise that fights are going to happen and most of them will be her fault. She is a chick. Trust me, the WANT to fight. What will define how your relationship with her will be how you respond to her.

I wish you the best of luck my man. Don't loose this one. She cares alot about you. Don't blow this situation with me out of proportion, its not that big of a deal, I swear.

Just so you know, the katie I am talking about is not my ex-wife.

Edited by Sonic, 12 March 2008 - 02:18 AM.

[Lawivido]

You may have acted like a dick at first. But you handled it rather nicely in the end.

[Oaken]

I think that will really help him out. Good job man, you did good

[sonic]

I think that will really help him out. Good job man, you did good

Thanks oaken.

[Amagius]

Yeah, nice recovery. Truthfully, I'm sure I would've done close to the same thing, but many would call me a dick, at least when it comes to women and relationships.

[phalkon]

eh.

fuck.

[Fatal]

Not a dick, you were going along with the girl, not your fault she doesnt feel like being loyal. If she wants you, go get her (unless your friend wanted her first and you want to give Kara to him.... the part about your friend confused me, so)

[Tailwind]

Thanks for the supportive post! lol. I do not feel I was a dick for talking to the girl. She seemed cool, yet I was reluctant becuase she had a boyfriend. I guess marine did not read all that. I am asking If I am a dick for spilling the beans about his girl to him. To be honest I would like to think I did it for truth and justice, but to be honest I was just pissed she made it seem like I was the desperate one. Damn my ego.

It's alright. I kind of know how you feel since one of my ex-boyfriends pulled a similar stunt on me with another girl. Needless to say, you can see why he's my ex now. xD

You handled it really nicely at the end there. Good job.

[Jakerz]

If you knew he treated her like shit in my opinion it's alright to "start" something with her, although you didn't really but like what you did was alright, I do it all the time if I know her bf is abusive or something just to get them out of the relationship. I'm pretty stupid but if you ask me you did it alright, besides maybe letting the bf know in a bit of a nicer way lol.. Although if I knew he treated her like shit I most likely would have been worse then you at telling him

Fuck I think I just mis-read the hole thing >< If I did ignore my post lol

Edited by Jakerz, 12 March 2008 - 06:57 AM.

[adonis]

that girl was fuckin with you. let is slide, because it ain't even worth dwelling on.

[Dan]

surprise sex

only answer

[The Avon Lady#2]

Not sure if you are a dick, but I would distance myself from the girl. Seems like she is already looking for someone to NEED her.
A little co-dependence can be o.k., but this is setting off warning lights.

Good luck dude!

[Sunset]

Nah your not a dick but honestly that girl sounds like she has issues and I would keeep my distance lol

[Cory]

Trust me bro, I was a prick long before I was mod. If you don't like what I have to say, don't post your bull shit drama, that's probably made up anyways.

It doesn't matter if she was coming on to you or not. You knew she had a boyfriend and you continued to talk to her and shit. Her boyfriend should have kicked your ass got it over with. Yes he may have been the biggest dick in the world, beat on her, and abuse her in every since. Then you could be the better man and step in and get that shit to stop, or get them to actually break up, but you decided to keep messing around with her behind his back.

I read it all, you just didn't like the response. Reluctant or not you still did it. You rob a bank, but are reluctant to do so, at the end of the day your ass is still going to jail for the same crime.

You flirting with another mans girl, even if she was unhappy doesn't make things OK. How would you have liked it if some guy was fucking your wife while you where away? You'd be fucking pissed as well.

You know, a couple of staff members and I have a poll going that 90% of the shit you start here is bull. I tend to favor you as far as most of the information you say is accurate, but hell if I know. You need to realize your on the wrong path right now. I don't blame your wife for leaving you, I don't feel sorry for your leg and I sure as hell don't feel sorry for you.

Best thing I can suggest of you is to take a break from life. Travel somewhere far away and relax, not at the fucking bar. Go fishing / camping for a few days. Go to Japan and just see the lights. Your on a dead end right now, heading no where fast.

[sonic]

Trust me bro, I was a prick long before I was mod. If you don't like what I have to say, don't post your bull shit drama, that's probably made up anyways.

It doesn't matter if she was coming on to you or not. You knew she had a boyfriend and you continued to talk to her and shit. Her boyfriend should have kicked your ass got it over with. Yes he may have been the biggest dick in the world, beat on her, and abuse her in every since. Then you could be the better man and step in and get that shit to stop, or get them to actually break up, but you decided to keep messing around with her behind his back.

I read it all, you just didn't like the response. Reluctant or not you still did it. You rob a bank, but are reluctant to do so, at the end of the day your ass is still going to jail for the same crime.

You flirting with another mans girl, even if she was unhappy doesn't make things OK. How would you have liked it if some guy was fucking your wife while you where away? You'd be fucking pissed as well.

You know, a couple of staff members and I have a poll going that 90% of the shit you start here is bull. I tend to favor you as far as most of the information you say is accurate, but hell if I know. You need to realize your on the wrong path right now. I don't blame your wife for leaving you, I don't feel sorry for your leg and I sure as hell don't feel sorry for you.

Best thing I can suggest of you is to take a break from life. Travel somewhere far away and relax, not at the fucking bar. Go fishing / camping for a few days. Go to Japan and just see the lights. Your on a dead end right now, heading no where fast.

What I say is bullshit?
Which part?
lol, this should be great.

I don't blame your wife for leaving you, I don't feel sorry for your leg and I sure as hell don't feel sorry for you.

Never asked for your sympathy.

So I ask you now, I PMed you. Tell me. What do I have to say that is bullshit. Lets find out

The staff thinks Im lieing? Well even better. I can upload anything you want. Shit I will upload my entire Iperms

Edited by Sonic, 12 March 2008 - 10:10 AM.

[Waser Lave]

First part you weren't really a dick that much, second part I'd say you were.

pls dude jus one question. did she really txt u? or did u text her? she says it was u cuming on to her and she tried to ditch u. pls just tel me that and i will leav u alone

You should have known from that message to change the way you were talking to him really...

[Cory]

What I say is bullshit?
Which part?
lol, this should be great.

Never asked for your sympathy.

All of it is bull shit.


Yes, you asked for everyone on this site to give you sympathy. That's the only reason almost every, if not every, one of your posts have to do with shit like this. Something bad always happens to you, right? Seems like you should get yourself settled in life instead of trying to have everyone else understand how "hard" your life is.

You come to this site expecting people to feel sorry for you. You ask questions about rather they think you are a dick or not and don't like the answers you receive. Brotha, like I said, you need to step away from the computer, step away from the bar, step away from it all and open your eyes. Everything bad that is happening to you, is a complete reflection of your choices.

Simple rules in life, you don't mess with another mans woman, no mater the circumstance. You treat your wife right, or else you don't love her the way you should. You don't bitch and moan about every curve ball life throws at you. If you have to ask if you where in the wrong, chances are very high that you where.