Ending a Friendship Due to Necessity
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Have you had to end a friendship, not because they did something wrong, not because they are a bad friend, not because they smell really bad, but because the friendship is simply too much for you to handle?
I recently had to end a friendship with someone with whom I was really close. The reason I had to end it was because of his attitude and his views on life; he was a very negative person. Whenever any thing happened his reflex was to shut down and basically stop functioning as a person. He would spend hours complaining about every little detail and he wasn't even in the mindset of "I need to stop being so negative and see the good." He more believed "everyone in this entire world sucks. Fuck everyone and everything except for myself."
It might be obvious to say that it's not easy being friends with someone like that. Because when he says stuff like "fuck everyone" that kinda includes me. I'm a part of everyone. Are you saying I suck?
He was also extremely blunt and unempathetic. He doesn't understand that other people have struggles and he doesn't realize that he says very (unintentionally) hurtful things on a regular basis.
I'm basically at a point of my life where I'm about to make a huge transition into a professional field and I will definitely be needing support and people who care about me during all of it. I do not, however, have enough energy to deal with someone who constantly patronizes me and dismisses my problems as "stupid shit" because his life is 100000x more worse than mine.
I do feel bad for ending the friendship (even though it's not exactly a one-sided situation. He had issues with me as well since I often get pissed off with him when he says something extremely rude), but I feel like it's something that I need to do.
I talked to a few people about what I did/how I felt, and they all shared stories about ending friendships because it was just something they needed to do. And it definitely made me feel better but I still feel really down. At this point, he has one friend left; he's pushed away everyone else and I was his best friend. He's lost his best friend and I feel like I've removed a weight off my shoulders. I feel bad for feeling relieved.
Anyone wanna share? It might help me in this... time of blehhh.
I have a problem close to yours. But it's my cousin.
He's the most negative person I know, and we live close since we are babies (he's 17 days younger), so we are always together.
Don't feel bad for feeling relieved, it's not your fault that he can be a bad company. He has to learn that people like him often end up alone, so maybe he turns into a better person.