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hey.
Recently I have not been online that much, mostly because my family is having major problem. I have a baby brother (actually only a year and a half younger than me buuut to me he's my baby) who's autiste. He's... not so bad, all thing consider. Yes he have violent reactions sometime, and can't interacte with most people like a normal person, and will never drive, and can't cook, but he's happy. And he's really a sweet kid. He makes joke and stuff, love his family, and is adorable with his cousins. Now, right now it's hockey seasons, and because we are french canadians, we do love our local hockey team. My brother, even if he was never able to play sport, love watching hockey, and get pretty pissed off when they loss.
The probleme is that they where eliminate last night.
See, for all the recent hockey match, my brother have been extremel stressed. He would scream, trow a tantrum, maybe jump up and down. ost of the time we would calm him down by watching a movie or someting. Last night he was at my dad place and... I don't know why, but my dad was not there when the game ended. So my brother broke the Tv. Violently.
Hapilly no one was hurt, execpt my dad budget, but it make us realise someting: My brother will probably never be autonome. We did talk about it recently, me and my mom and dad, but we had no idea that my brother could still be that violent. when he was younger, he did, on ocasions, hurt me, but he was just a young kid. Now he's taller then me by almost a foot and is two time my size, and if he have a fit of violence? I can't stop him. My mother can't. Maybe, MAYBE my dad can. After the Tv incident, once in is room, my brother started hitting himself hard in the face. I'm pretty sure that he have bruise this morning. My mom spend most of the night crying, and my dad trying to calm down his extremely spooked girlfriend.
We are all a bit desperate. In a way, we know that someting like this would come evantualy but... It's still terrifying. Because we are at the "now what?" point in my brther life. Do we help him find a job? Should he continue his study? Do we have to put him in supervised home? Do we have to place him? See a psychologiste? Is there even psycologiste for autiste french canadians young adult with anger issues?
I don't want to place my brother. Nobody in the family want that. But my parents, and me, can't take care of him forever, as much as I would love to. When my parents will die, I'm not going to be able to take care of him... I will have my own kids, and my husbands, and a house... I'm just. Desperate. And so stressed out. I know that some other family have autiste kids much worst then us, that we are lucky that my bro talk and joke with us, it's just... I would like one day to be able for my brother to not be druged up when he have stuff to do, or to find a girlfriend, or SOMETING.
I just want my brother to be as happy as he can be, and for my parents too. Is that bto much?
Recently I have not been online that much, mostly because my family is having major problem. I have a baby brother (actually only a year and a half younger than me buuut to me he's my baby) who's autiste. He's... not so bad, all thing consider. Yes he have violent reactions sometime, and can't interacte with most people like a normal person, and will never drive, and can't cook, but he's happy. And he's really a sweet kid. He makes joke and stuff, love his family, and is adorable with his cousins. Now, right now it's hockey seasons, and because we are french canadians, we do love our local hockey team. My brother, even if he was never able to play sport, love watching hockey, and get pretty pissed off when they loss.
The probleme is that they where eliminate last night.
See, for all the recent hockey match, my brother have been extremel stressed. He would scream, trow a tantrum, maybe jump up and down. ost of the time we would calm him down by watching a movie or someting. Last night he was at my dad place and... I don't know why, but my dad was not there when the game ended. So my brother broke the Tv. Violently.
Hapilly no one was hurt, execpt my dad budget, but it make us realise someting: My brother will probably never be autonome. We did talk about it recently, me and my mom and dad, but we had no idea that my brother could still be that violent. when he was younger, he did, on ocasions, hurt me, but he was just a young kid. Now he's taller then me by almost a foot and is two time my size, and if he have a fit of violence? I can't stop him. My mother can't. Maybe, MAYBE my dad can. After the Tv incident, once in is room, my brother started hitting himself hard in the face. I'm pretty sure that he have bruise this morning. My mom spend most of the night crying, and my dad trying to calm down his extremely spooked girlfriend.
We are all a bit desperate. In a way, we know that someting like this would come evantualy but... It's still terrifying. Because we are at the "now what?" point in my brther life. Do we help him find a job? Should he continue his study? Do we have to put him in supervised home? Do we have to place him? See a psychologiste? Is there even psycologiste for autiste french canadians young adult with anger issues?
I don't want to place my brother. Nobody in the family want that. But my parents, and me, can't take care of him forever, as much as I would love to. When my parents will die, I'm not going to be able to take care of him... I will have my own kids, and my husbands, and a house... I'm just. Desperate. And so stressed out. I know that some other family have autiste kids much worst then us, that we are lucky that my bro talk and joke with us, it's just... I would like one day to be able for my brother to not be druged up when he have stuff to do, or to find a girlfriend, or SOMETING.
I just want my brother to be as happy as he can be, and for my parents too. Is that bto much?
My brother also has autism. He's 11, 15 years younger than I am, but much stronger easily and almost as tall.
There's a psychologist for everything, but you might be better off looking at behavioral therapy, to try to teach him what to do to help his anger and emotions. My brother has a sleeping bag and when he gets overwhelmed, my mom can talk him into getting in there and being alone for a bit. He knows that being outside makes him feel better, so he is able to recognize when he needs to get away from people or whatever. A therapist who specializes in autism would be able to help your family kind of plan out his life. I don't know how severe his autism is, which would be a huge determining factor in whether he can get a job and continue studies (and even the type of occupation he should pursue.)
If you just want to talk or whatever, feel free to pm me.