Word for word transcript as follows.
Him= "So have you decided if you want to hang out tomorrow?"
Me= "I want to, but I also want to hang out with this one fag."
Him "I wanted to hang out with you and that fag, but I don't want to drive all the way to that fag's to come get you."
Me= "You don't have to, it's alright"
SUDDEN EXPLOSION OF TEXTS FROM HIM= "That sucks I also wanted to do shit at the place when I picked you up but you fucking suck it sucks I mad!"
Me "Your birthday is on Tuesday. I just spent $20 worth of 2 fucking Magic cards as a fucking present and am taking you to see the Batman at le cinema. and spending another $50 on a small size popcorn"
Him= "bitches fucking lie you say you miss me but yet you don't want to hang out with me and you want to see your faggot gay friend instead and I'm so insecure and selfish I can hardly even sleep at night but I'm a leo so it's totes okies"
I think it's because of following reasons:
-he literally has 1 other friend {who has a similarly controlling and equally obnoxious girlfriend}
-he's too attached {friends with benefits}
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-he's totally in love with me and just in some hardcore man denial.
I used to be in the same exact insecure/jealous/angry raging mad state he was in. Then I started meditating more and realizing that I can't be with everyone all the time. But in the end, I'm still wanted. And that's all that matters. Blah blah.
A little more backstory would involve me saying that this happened after I saw him YESTERDAY for a few hours {we played cards for around 7 hours at the card shop}, stayed with him over the weekend and came home on Tuesday, and stayed over the entire week before that. He chalks up that logic to my "staying over so I can get tired of him and ditch him for a weekend he would otherwise be completely planless". In reality, I don't want to overstay/eat all his food.
I am trying my hardest to speak my mind without offending him, because believe it or not, I actually like this guy, and losing him would be shitty. But the constant threats and insecure rants he goes on take a toll on me, since there's always a chance this is the time he gets really upset and wants to leave. I feel threatened and hurt. All of this I tell him explicitly, but he either doesn't understand or is incapable of justifying my means.
-end girl post.
Edited by Indigo, 26 July 2012 - 09:46 PM.