2 of my lesbian friends have been deceived by transgender people recently, then accused of being bigoted. Is it a common thought among the transgender community that lesbians should sleep with transwomen (especially those who have not had bottom surgery) as this seems crazy to me? The general 'trans thoughts' round here seem to be...sex is irrelevant, its all about 'gender' and if you use someones sex as a ballpark, you are a bigot. However, this line of thought totally erases homosexuality, and heterosexuality too? Researching this on the internet introduced me to the term 'cotton ceiling' which I find repulsive and...a bit rapey if I am honest.
1 of my friends was not told the transwoman was a transwoman. She took 'her' home, were getting down, then discovered a penis. When she said she was gay, the transwoman claimed that as she had been attracted to her up until that stage this means that she is transphobic and a 'vagina fetishist'?! She ended up being struck in the face for continuing to insist that she was a lesbian. Transwoman said 'she' was a lesbian too...etc. After gaining a black eye, she did manage to get the transwoman to leave, but she has been harassed ever since by a large group of people who agree that declining penis makes one a transphobe..
And IF this is a common line of thought (I am genuinely hoping its just a couple of crazies with this view, but it seems not) then why attach the T to LGB if sexuality in itself is bigoted?
I think of this from the other way too. If I was not married and was out on the pull and a passing transman came onto me..I would feel so deceived if I took them home and there was a vagina staring me in the face? I don't think this is wrong but maybe I am?
Edited by NeoVix, 14 February 2017 - 03:51 PM.