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How do you tell your friend to stop being such a bitch to her husband? :/
Apr 27 2016 05:17 PM
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Coops
@Tauriel Hmm, yeah that makes a lot of sense and is some solid advice. The way she treats him, in my opinion, is heading in the direction of abuse. Things like telling him he's overreacting any time he doesn't like her sharing his business with the world, and it's not a big deal, etc. Like he should have the right to his privacy and not be accused of overreacting, or invalidated, if he doesn't want her talking about certain stuff (their sex life with his subordinates at work, which is super huge no-no in the military and is suuuper inappropriate). I think if she does that shit from now on, I'll shut her down, but not be accusatory. Just be like, "Please, this is making me uncomfortable and I don't wanna be in the middle of it". She did put me in the middle of it today at dinner, asking if I thought it was fine for her to tell his subordinates about her giving him a blowie for skittles. And I was like, uh yes, that's hella inappropriate and he obviously didn't want you to tell them, so double inappropriate. Shit. It was pretty horrible.
Apr 27 2016 06:51 PM -
I think a good step is definitely giving your thoughts when she is directly involving you in it like she did at dinner. That opens a small window of opportunity where it becomes your business and you can seize the moment to (gently) let her know she is being a bit aggressive and that you feel really awkward or uncomfortable.
Apr 27 2016 06:54 PM -
Coops
That's a good plan @Tauriel, thank you x3. I'll do that and just hang out with them less lol. I can't take it. I'm a grown ass woman. I can understand disagreements here and there between married people. But I got other shit to deal with, I don't wanna get caught up in their crap.
Apr 27 2016 06:57 PM
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