God you lot are fucking ridiculous sometimes. Have you ever spoke to a 12 year old boy? Literally 90% of their thoughts are sex, boobs ancon women. It's hormonal.
Maybe a teacher is doing her best and suggesting something so that all three parties can learn in peace
Another reason I'm all for school uniform, letting kids pick out their clothes only leads to issues.
Yes, because obviously instead of telling the boys to get it under control, you're telling a girl to not wear a T-shirt?
A teacher would be doing her best if she tried to educate the boys, not taking the shortcut of just telling the girl to stop wearing a T-shirt.
Drawing parallel to an extreme case, if there's a rape case, are you going to tell the victim that he/she should've worn less revealing clothing?
I may not be the popular opinion again, but I will say my piece as best as I can.
That is a bit extreme. Did a parent speak with a teach or did the sister just retell what was being said? I'm not saying she's not telling the truth, but what you interpret at 12 can sometimes be slightly exaggerated or misunderstood. I don't agree with having to wear a turtleneck, that is a bit unnecessary. You have to understand that this sort of thing is a two way street and the teacher must protect the interest of the entire class. School is a learning environment ultimately.
We cannot pretend hormones do not exists. So, its naturally for kids regardless of their gender to notice someone maturing faster than them. Boys will look and girls will look, except boys might act a little different and not understand why at that age. Remember 12 is very young and they're still kids. This might make the sister uncomfortable and more often girls will make comments out of jealousy, which is more often the case. I think the teacher is trying to come up with a compromise, not shame your sister (yes, saying she should wear a turtleneck is a bit much, but I don' think she meant it maliciously or with that intent). They way it should have been dealt with is to ask a parent to come in and have a talk about her changes in a comfortable manner and private setting. Then your mom can better explain that when you go through changes like this, its time to wear big girl clothing and its a part of growing up.
When you get older. Your wardrobe goes through a change and there is appropriate attire for every environment. A young lady must learn how to flow with the changes of her body. Things you could wear and get away with when you were younger - may not be age appropriate for when your body changes. She may not have to wear a turtleneck, but a higher-cropped neck would be a better option than a low-cropped tank-top. Its a great time to go shopping and get some new wardrobe. This makes a transitioning young lady feel like she's becoming a woman. When she gets older, she can choose to wear whatever she wants. But for right now, she's a little girl.
The same applies for young boys. Saggy pants and super tight pants that show the shape of ones crotch is not appropriate an the same measures should be taken. But, at the end of the day a boy does not have the same growing issues as a female and we just have to accept that as basic human anatomy.
School is a learning environment, and learning how to control yourself is definitely part of the learning process. I don't think the age of 12 is young; its already 6/7th grade, and most schools require sex-ed/HGD classes in 5th grade, so every kid should know the basics of everything, which will be enforced/expanded on in the upcoming years. If a school wants to ban tank-tops, fine, it can be argued to not be school-appropriate (for both girls and guys though), but a T-shirt is pretty unreasonable
I definitely think a comfortable environment and what you said about talking is needed, but that's because of how society is and it really shouldn't be. Go look at the recent Isla Vista incident. That's what happens when you let stuff like this slide for boys because it makes it okay for males to think that its not their fault, its the victim's fault.
Edited by Junsu, 27 May 2014 - 05:24 AM.
is the teacher a woman?
