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[Emily]

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I hate pretty much all of my friends.

Correction: I reaaaally hate all of my friends.

 

Why are you "friends" with them then?

[Kass]

Why are you "friends" with them then?

I honestly don't know. I guess it's because I've known them for so long and have hoped that things would change and be different but I guess the only person I'm fooling is myself. I joined a music & service fraternity last semester so I'm thinking it might just be better to make new friends there and ditch these ones...

[Emily]

I honestly don't know. I guess it's because I've known them for so long and have hoped that things would change and be different but I guess the only person I'm fooling is myself. I joined a music & service fraternity last semester so I'm thinking it might just be better to make new friends there and ditch these ones...

 

I wouldn't ditch them completely, but maybe distance yourself from them. If you feel like they're a negative part of your life, then try to keep away from that a little bit, and definitely make some more friends. Sometimes you just need space from people to realize the parts of them that made you become friends in the first place. Doesn't always happen but you never know. If you grow apart, you grow apart. If you remain distant friends or rebuild the bond then that's good too. 

 

But definitely try to find friends that fit your interests now! 

[Kass]

I wouldn't ditch them completely, but maybe distance yourself from them. If you feel like they're a negative part of your life, then try to keep away from that a little bit, and definitely make some more friends. Sometimes you just need space from people to realize the parts of them that made you become friends in the first place. Doesn't always happen but you never know. If you grow apart, you grow apart. If you remain distant friends or rebuild the bond then that's good too. 

 

But definitely try to find friends that fit your interests now! 

 

That's some good advice. Thanks

[Blanc]

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I'm spiteful.

[Lollita]

I'm tired of feeling uncomfortable around my cousin whenever her boyfriend is around. And that's ridiculous, because she's as close to me as my sister (or even more). But knowing that he's jealous or whatever stupid thing he feels, makes it inevitable.

 

I have the same problem ;( My cousin and I are the same age, we grew up together, studied together, my mom and his mom are super close, we're like twins.. and his wife is jealous.. she even got mad mad that he chose me as the maid of honor. 

[Swar]

I have the same problem ;( My cousin and I are the same age, we grew up together, studied together, my mom and his mom are super close, we're like twins.. and his wife is jealous.. she even got mad mad that he chose me as the maid of honor. 

It's just stupid. I'm glad he's her first boyfriend, because I really don't want to see him as her husband. They've broken up a few times, so it just gets weaker everytime. Thankfully.

Just so you have an idea of how jealous he is. He got mad at her because she was wearing "my" jacket. I say "my" because my mom had bough it for me, but it was too small, so she gave it to my cousin. I didn't even wear the thing.

[NapisaurusRex]

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I got a fitbit for xmas and use it as an excuse not to have my phone on me constantly because I don't need it to track my steps anymore.

[Adam]

Football is the most boring thing...For every 1 minute that passes on the game clock, 10 minutes passes in real time. BORING.

[sprockets]

Football is the most boring thing...For every 1 minute that passes on the game clock, 10 minutes passes in real time. BORING.

 

Basketball is just as bad. One time was with a buddy who was watching a game with less than a minute left and he told us to go ahead because he wasn't sure how long that minute would take. 

[Mishelle]

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all of my friends are getting in relationships and I'd like to be in one but I don't want to lower my standards just to be in a relationship.

[Kass]

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all of my friends are getting in relationships and I'd like to be in one but I don't want to lower my standards just to be in a relationship.

 

Well I feel you there. I'm in the same situation pretty much

[Salade]

I'm a shoe. 

[Lollita]

It's just stupid. I'm glad he's her first boyfriend, because I really don't want to see him as her husband. They've broken up a few times, so it just gets weaker everytime. Thankfully.

Just so you have an idea of how jealous he is. He got mad at her because she was wearing "my" jacket. I say "my" because my mom had bough it for me, but it was too small, so she gave it to my cousin. I didn't even wear the thing.

 

It's so freaking stupid, that kind of jealousy is sick ;x

[Rocket]

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all of my friends are getting in relationships and I'd like to be in one but I don't want to lower my standards just to be in a relationship.

story of my life

[Katya]

@Swarley and @LollitaM apparently this is a very common thing? o.O

My sister-in-law (brother's partner) was the jealousy monster. She was jealous because we're so close (my brother and I) and felt resentful every time we hanged out together. It got to a point where she tried to make us feel guilt for maintain our level of friendship, closeness and relationship like when we were both single. Because "two grown ass adults, especially if brother and sister, can't spent the night at each other's houses when one of them is not single anymore. It doesn't look good and it's sick".

We stopped doing some things only the two of us because of her, like going to the movies, the beach, a night out, or any kind of roadtrip. She insisted to go with us, which killed the point of our brother&sister time or tried to prevent him for meeting me.

 

At the final stage of their relationship, she went as far as saying we were probably sleeping together because when he stopped sleeping at their house when were trying to re-build their relationship, he crashed at my place for a couple of months. This was because every time we had a family reunion at my mum's we would sneak out in the middle of the night to a vacant room to talk. I don't sleep and since we were kids he always tried his best to help me with my condition, we would talk all night and he would tell me stories, faerietales or things that happened with him during the day. Alas, it never worked but we STILL love to have times like this. One night, she "caught" us in the same bed talking to each other and assumed we were not only sleeping together, but sleeping together. Lol she bitch about it to my mum next morning and made us all laugh, which only made her more mad and... kinda... green.

 

At the beginning this reaction was only towards other women, friends, co-workers. She showed some jealousy but nothing big like this. At that time I told him to be careful because usually that shit escalates pretty quickly and can end up bad, like murder-followed-by-suicide bad. By the end he was only trying to make things work because of their daughter but maintain any kind of relationship that bad because of kids it only makes things worse and it's bad for everyone especially the kid.

 

Any kind of relationship like that is doomed. @Swarley your cousin should dump him for good. She can get better.

[Swar]

@Lucille that's just sick, being jelous of brother/sister... Fortunately my sister doesn't have a problem dumping guys because of jealousy problems lol

[MelodyPond]

Not sure if this would be classified as a confession, but I know it's just sheer stupidity.

I was changing emails on my spare today, and I accidently entered the wrong one (I don't own this email that was wrong) and I hit submit. Now, since I can't access the confirmation link, I don't know if I'll be able to change it tomorrow since it's not going to be confirmed today.

Edited by MelodyPond, 04 January 2016 - 08:28 AM.

[Lollita]

@Lucille that's just sick, being jelous of brother/sister... Fortunately my sister doesn't have a problem dumping guys because of jealousy problems lol

 

Agree 100%. It's sick and unfortunately it is a common thing ;(, my sister-in-law is not like yours (jealous of simblings), but I remember that when I lived with my brother I couldn't bring a friend home without her bitching out that my friend was hitting on him   ..

[Mishelle]

@Swarley and @LollitaM apparently this is a very common thing? o.O
My sister-in-law (brother's partner) was the jealousy monster. She was jealous because we're so close (my brother and I) and felt resentful every time we hanged out together. It got to a point where she tried to make us feel guilt for maintain our level of friendship, closeness and relationship like when we were both single. Because "two grown ass adults, especially if brother and sister, can't spent the night at each other's houses when one of them is not single anymore. It doesn't look good and it's sick".
We stopped doing some things only the two of us because of her, like going to the movies, the beach, a night out, or any kind of roadtrip. She insisted to go with us, which killed the point of our brother&sister time or tried to prevent him for meeting me.
 
At the final stage of their relationship, she went as far as saying we were probably sleeping together because when he stopped sleeping at their house when were trying to re-build their relationship, he crashed at my place for a couple of months. This was because every time we had a family reunion at my mum's we would sneak out in the middle of the night to a vacant room to talk. I don't sleep and since we were kids he always tried his best to help me with my condition, we would talk all night and he would tell me stories, faerietales or things that happened with him during the day. Alas, it never worked but we STILL love to have times like this. One night, she "caught" us in the same bed talking to each other and assumed we were not only sleeping together, but sleeping together. Lol she bitch about it to my mum next morning and made us all laugh, which only made her more mad and... kinda... green.
 
At the beginning this reaction was only towards other women, friends, co-workers. She showed some jealousy but nothing big like this. At that time I told him to be careful because usually that shit escalates pretty quickly and can end up bad, like murder-followed-by-suicide bad. By the end he was only trying to make things work because of their daughter but maintain any kind of relationship that bad because of kids it only makes things worse and it's bad for everyone especially the kid.
 
Any kind of relationship like that is doomed. @Swarley your cousin should dump him for good. She can get better.

My dads gf is exactly like that. He can't talk to a woman without her accusing him of cheating. She even got upset that him and my mom are friends when him any my mom haven't been together for over 20 years.

[Lollita]

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all of my friends are getting in relationships and I'd like to be in one but I don't want to lower my standards just to be in a relationship.

 

story of my life

 

I'm with you girls

[Mishelle]

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I got drunk and decided I needed more snapchat friends. I went through the "add friends by address book" feature and added everyone. Little did I know even if you have someone blocked they still show up so I ended up adding a dude I stopped talking to years ago. We used to be really good friends but things got weird. I was in a relationship at the time and he would not respect my relationship. He kept trying to get with me and not only is that impossible because he lives across the country but I had no interest. I kept asking him to stop and just be my friend but that was impossible for him so I decided to just cut him off.

So after I added him he messaged me and we spoke it was pretty civil. I thought since it's been years, he's over it, I'm over it, and maybe we can be friends again. He somehow found me on Facebook and added me so I added him back. And that's where I fucked up. He messages me like every day. If I ignore him enough to he'll downgrade to messaging me every other day. I don't talk to any of my friends every day unless you count my cat. Plus he's one of those people who will start a conversation with you just to talk about themselves the whole time. Who has time for that? Not me. I still have a queue on Netflix that I need to get through before I have to go back to work. I'm busy.

I felt kind of bad for CONSTANTLY ignoring his messages so I decided to message him back. I talked to him for a bit and he went right back to being his old self. Flirting with me when he doesn't even know me, and he's in a relationship. I'm a completely different person than I was 5 years ago. I'm not nice anymore, and I wasn't even that nice to begin with. When I was younger I explained to him and gave him chances. Now If you keep coming onto me when I'm clearly not reciprocating I'm just going to get back to Netflix and ignore the hell out of you. Forever.

I am so unimpressed with men lately. (Pauses for the #NotAllMen) Like if I even double text a dude I'm acting crazy but I constantly have to deal with dudes who won't back the fuck up and stay in their lanes. It's such a bullshit. Not that I even want to chase a dude, if you don't want me I will live. I will leave you alone and take my beautiful face elsewhere asap. But why is this behavior so common? Idk how many times I've explained to a dude that I do not want their dusty ass and that I just want to be friends. But they keep trying me to the point where I don't even want to try to be friends. Like fuck, is a little respect and courtesy too damn much to ask for?

Then he had the nerve to messaging me demanding that I stop ignoring him. Bitch I'm grown. If I don't want to respond to your wack ass Facebook message I won't. I don't care about your basic ass job, your basic ass relationship, or the fact that you're buying a house that's probably going to be basic just like you. Why don't you consider the fact that maybe I just don't want to talk to you about nothing? Maybe you should step your conversation game up. Maybe you should try messaging me with something other than "Mishhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh". It's not my fault you want to keep messaging a person every day who clearly does not want to talk to you every day. You're doing this to your damn self. Get some fucking self esteem, love yourself. Message your goddamn girlfriend, or whatever friends you have that do that talking every day shit because clearly I'm not one of them. I wanted to cuss him out for that and tell him how fucked up he's got me, but since I wanted to make a point (and be petty) I just looked at it and ignored it.

This should've been a blog post. I didn't expect to go off like that when I first began typing. This type of shit just really grinds my gears.

Edited by Mishelle, 05 January 2016 - 03:07 AM.

[Keil]

People who end their typed messages with the word "so" and an emoticon as a means to be persuasive makes me want to virtualize my raging fist through cyberspace, then rematerialize in font of their monitor to form a knuckle sandwich.

 

I'll also confess that I couldn't find the pet peeves thread so i dumped this here instead. 

[rezpirate]

I came on to confess my worst sin, then got distracted by the previous posts, and forgot what I was going to put.

[Rocket]

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only two more weeks, holy crap i'm nervous