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#1 Ali

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Posted 20 July 2016 - 12:07 PM

Inspired by Cara's things that define you post (someone move that to GC so I can vote for it in thread of the month), tell me the things you have done that at one point would have seemed completely against the grain of who you are.

 

So, events in your life that 5/10/15 years ago you would have laughed in someone's face if they'd told you that you would one day do that thing. Maybe you now eat bacon with every meal after being a die hard vegetarian, or do some ridiculous amount of sport after previously weighing 300lbs, or joined the army after years as a pacifist, or became a dog owner when you were destined to be a cat lady. I don't know. Things that don't tally up with an old life. Things that if someone from school heard about, they'd say "Really? THEM?". Go!

 

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For me:

Gave up my career violining

4 years at music college. Probably about 4 years prior to that aiming to get into music college. Everything had been building up to a career as a violinist, and then I achieved that, and then I hated that. I don't think anybody who knew me had any inclination there was another path in life for me, I was a violinist. It was surprising to learn that I had priorities that mattered more than something I'd devoted my life to, but there we go. When I look back at the start of my career, and touring (or crying in hotel bathrooms, as I mostly remember it), it feels like somebody else's life. Now I don't do professional violining, and occasionally flirt with the idea of going back to it, but that just isn't who I am now.

 

Became a runner / ran 5 marathons / signed up for an ultramarathon

I was not a sporty child/teen. I was on the field hockey team because I'm vicious and people were afraid of me, rather than any natural sporting talent. I skived a truly ridiculous number of PE lessons. I think by the time I left school at 16, the furthest I'd ever run was 800m and genuinely believed I "couldn't" run.

 

Then we moved to London and I spent my weekends wandering around Kensington Gardens, and Little Venice, and eventually I started slowly running. Since then I've run 5 marathons and I can run a good for age time for London. Next spring I'll be running a 50 mile ultramarathon in one day. If you'd told me any of this 10 years ago, I would have laughed and laughed.

 

Got married so young

It didn't really occur to me that it would happen til the day he asked me and pretty much nobody in the UK gets married at 20. You have to be super Christian or pregnant, and I was neither of those things.



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Posted 20 July 2016 - 01:40 PM

I haven't got much but here are the top two:


1) If you had told 18 year old me that I'd soon have a child I would've choked. I didn't want kids at all, let alone that young. I thought I'd be in University / working on a career, not raising kids. Fast forward 7 years and not only do I have a child, I have three children. (Do not regret them one bit however.)

2) I also got married young and that's another thing I didn't think I'd ever do. I was 20 but I was never really keen on the idea of marriage before that. 



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Posted 20 July 2016 - 02:10 PM

First of all, I want to say that I'm surprised to hear that you're no longer professionally playing violini. But, I completely understand that. One of my bestfriends has been a cook for 20+ years and she called me up one day and just said "I'm done". She quit that day. She still likes to cook, she just doesn't like to do it as work.

 

I think this post I made on facebook a few weeks ago perfectly fits my response to this thread:

 

"So posting this is super not modest of me but IDGAF because I never thought I would go from some ghetto kid skipping school every day to honour rolls in a law program in University. I know that ghetto kid would be proud of me. Thanks to everyone who supported me.

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Inspired by Cara's things that define you post (someone move that to GC so I can vote for it in thread of the month), tell me the things you have done that at one point would have seemed completely against the grain of who you are.

 

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Posted 20 July 2016 - 02:19 PM

1. Survive past 20.



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Posted 20 July 2016 - 03:17 PM

First of all, I want to say that I'm surprised to hear that you're no longer professionally playing violini. But, I completely understand that. One of my bestfriends has been a cook for 20+ years and she called me up one day and just said "I'm done". She quit that day. She still likes to cook, she just doesn't like to do it as work.

 

I think this post I made on facebook a few weeks ago perfectly fits my response to this thread:

 

"So posting this is super not modest of me but IDGAF because I never thought I would go from some ghetto kid skipping school every day to honour rolls in a law program in University. I know that ghetto kid would be proud of me. Thanks to everyone who supported me.

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For a while now, maybe 3 years? I was touring so much and missed my Boy desperately, and kept missing birthdays and housewarmings and all sorts. Even when I was home, I was finding the lifestyle really tough, was constantly injured and was so resentful of it. I do still play, and I do still do the odd bit for money. Don't think I'll ever love it the same way though.

 

Oh well done you!! I can't believe you're old enough to be doing such things, you're so young to me still (we are all permanently stuck in about 2008 as far as I'm concerned).


1. Survive past 20.

Good going, keep at it please! :heart:



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Posted 20 July 2016 - 05:02 PM

10 years ago if you would have told me I'd be divorced by 23 I'd have laughed in your face. I was happy and in love, but that soon changed lol

 

I really don't have any other noteworthy things younger me would be shocked about.



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Posted 20 July 2016 - 06:19 PM

I didn't think I'd quit school. I didn't think I'd be living in Canada. I didn't think I'd get married at 20. I didn't think that anyone would ever beat me to the point that I was limping the next day. I didn't think I'd be separated at 23. I didn't think I'd move back in with my parents. I didn't think I'd go back to college. I didn't think I'd want to be a doctor. I didn't think I'd have a miscarriage. I didn't think the person that got me pregnant would break up with me once I told him. I didn't think it was possible to lose 20lbs in one month from being so much in grief that I couldn't eat. I didn't think I would ever stop wishing I was dead. I didn't think I'd ever stop grieving. I didn't think that I'd ever meet someone that truly loved me and treated me well. I didn't think that anyone would ever believe in me so much that it made me believe in myself. I didn't think that I would ever like chemistry. I didn't think that I would choose research like my mother. I didn't think that I'd enter a science PhD program. I didn't think that I would study systems biology. I didn't think that I'd be researching the epigenetic effects behind DDT and other environmental toxicant exposure. I didn't think that I'd be a part of a team that is revolutionizing the way we think about genetic determinism...

...after the what I've gone through and the way I have been... no, ALLOWED myself to be treated by many people, I never believed that I would be happy. But I am. And I know I deserve to be. For a long time, I didn't think that I would, but I know I'm going to be okay.



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Posted 21 July 2016 - 01:10 PM

For a while now, maybe 3 years? I was touring so much and missed my Boy desperately, and kept missing birthdays and housewarmings and all sorts. Even when I was home, I was finding the lifestyle really tough, was constantly injured and was so resentful of it. I do still play, and I do still do the odd bit for money. Don't think I'll ever love it the same way though.

 

Oh well done you!! I can't believe you're old enough to be doing such things, you're so young to me still (we are all permanently stuck in about 2008 as far as I'm concerned).

 

Injured as a result of playing? I can understand how homesickness would make you fall out of love with the instrument. I would say that that is too bad, but it seems like it might have been the best for your mental health (considering you mentioned crying while touring) that you gave it up. It might be silly but I do think that people need to do something they shouldn't do to figure out exactly what they should do.

 

Thank you!!! I can't speak for you but my life was significantly simpler back in 2008. And I do often miss that ..



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Posted 22 July 2016 - 10:19 AM

I'd laugh (and probably punch) at the face of anyone that, ten years ago, would tell me that I:

 

1) Would become mother of a posse of Tiny Humans.

I've decided to not have kids at all since I was very young. I was so afraid I'd become as bad as my father and that terrified me so much that when I was in my teens all I couldn't think about once I got the adulthood was to remove my uterus, ovaries and anything else that could cause a pregnancy. I can't express with words how shocked I was when I got pregnant... It was not pretty.

 

2) I would quit the military for three years and not miss it 95% of the time.

Ten years ago (and in the pre-Tiny Humans era) I'd find that inconceivable. I'd bet all my money that something like that would never happen. It was my life, it was probably the only thing I always wanted since I had a mind of my own and aware enough of the things that were happening to me to know it was what I should do with my life (same as never being a mom lol).

 

3) Being in a long-term relationship (well, kinda...)

I still think I was tricked into this one, but oh well. Here we are... kinda. :S




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