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[sonic]

Im devistated. I have never felt so alone in my life.
Im am completly depressed. I cannot describe how shitty I feel.

I miss her so much, yet she wont even call me or contact me.

[Hazard]

Put on some porn and wank lmao that should sort you out for the night atleast

[ink]

Put on some porn and wank lmao that should sort you out for the night atleast

I'm not sure, but I don't think vulgar humor is right for this situation.

Sonic, I'm very sorry to hear that this has happened to you. I don't know the entirety of why this happened, but I'm sure that she could be more forgiving and caring.
Time heals all wounds, but it hurts like hell.

[Waser Lave]

Im devistated. I have never felt so alone in my life.
Im am completly depressed. I cannot describe how shitty I feel.

I miss her so much, yet she wont even call me or contact me.

If she won't call or contact you, why don't you call her or go over there and talk about it? It's no good just expecting her to phone you...

[sonic]

If she won't call or contact you, why don't you call her or go over there and talk about it? It's no good just expecting her to phone you...

We talked. I have an anxiety problem and call all the time some times. I have agreed to wait for her to call me.

The problem is, how long is that going to take. Im miserable and I just want to talk to her. She is at work right now so I know I cannot talk to her, but I am scared of how I am going to feel. Its crazy being scared of how you will feel the next day. I know this is just the start of the misery.

[Germ]

Put on some porn and wank lmao that should sort you out for the night atleast

That's not something you just want to blurt out and it's definitly not going to solve his problem. Sorry to hear what happened. Maybe you want to elaborate on why she broke up with you?

[sonic]

Do girls change their minds alot?
I would believe so, but I am just need some reassuance about anything.

[pyke]

If she married you, she obviously loved you. Maybe you should consider counseling?

[Eeyore]

Do girls change their minds alot?
I would believe so, but I am just need some reassuance about anything.

I know it's nothing like as big as your relationship or anything, but just from a personal point of view I know I got very close to breaking up with my boyfriend and was really very miserable with him, but what made it so hard was that I didn't actually want to end it, it was just going through a rough patch. Then one morning I wake up and boom, everything is fine and nothing had even changed, I just was completely randomly very happy with it all again.

Hopefully for her it could be much the same, she's just going through a bit of a rough patch with it all at the moment, I mean from the sounds of it (forgive me if I'm completely wrong here) you haven't been back with her that long, is that right at all? It could just be a bad reaction to the sudden change of situation. Sadly humans are very good at rather poorly expressing their subconcious feelings, particularly girls I've noticed.

But yes, what Brandon said, counselling would probably be a good one.

Edited by Eeyore, 29 February 2008 - 04:33 PM.

[Hazard]

That's not something you just want to blurt out and it's definitly not going to solve his problem. Sorry to hear what happened. Maybe you want to elaborate on why she broke up with you?

Dude Chill It was a Joke, Ink has already stated this...plus i think by calling her, your given her the upper hand, just wait for her to call and if she doesnt then obviously doesnt like you anymore...i know it hard to wait but you need to take your mind off things

[Eeyore]

Dude Chill It was a Joke, Ink has already stated this...plus i think by calling her, your given her the upper hand, just wait for her to call and if she doesnt then obviously doesnt like you anymore...i know it hard to wait but you need to take your mind off things

When it's a case of husband and wife the games teenagers play in 2 month relationships of 'I'm waiting for her to call me so it doesn't look like I'm that bothered', really doesn't work =/.

[Hater_Boxden]

Do girls change their minds alot?
I would believe so, but I am just need some reassuance about anything.

Not that they change their minds alot but they commit all their actions to spontaneity and the emotion they feel "in the moment" more than they use logic most of the time. It is part of their genetic programming. I think the worst thing you can do on your part is to call her non stop and seem hysterical and desperate, wait it out a few days and perhaps she will be alone at home and suddenly get the feeling of loneliness in that moment and will want you back as much as you want her back. I know that you feel like you want to do anything to talk to her and are dying of curiosity of what she is thinking but the best thing to do is hold your ground as a man and not pour your heart out into her ear, this will probably only alienate her further.

If she does not call you within a few days, send her something that shows that you are thinking about her without actually saying the words "I am thinking about". Send some flowers without a card attached. She will know its you and get the hint, she may even call you. THIS WORKS. Do nice things only on your terms and when you feel like it, not when she feels like it. Neediness and insecurity are your and every man's worst enemy.

[Hazard]

with sonic having an "anxiety problem" shes probably used to him up in her face all the time and needs to think things through....has she told you why it is over or is it a build up of things?

[sonic]

Not that they change their minds alot but they commit all their actions to spontaneity and the emotion they feel "in the moment" more than they use logic most of the time. It is part of their genetic programming. I think the worst thing you can do on your part is to call her non stop and seem hysterical and desperate, wait it out a few days and perhaps she will be alone at home and suddenly get the feeling of loneliness in that moment and will want you back as much as you want her back. I know that you feel like you want to do anything to talk to her and are dying of curiosity of what she is thinking but the best thing to do is hold your ground as a man and not pour your heart out into her ear, this will probably only alienate her further.

If she does not call you within a few days, send her something that shows that you are thinking about her without actually saying the words "I am thinking about". Send some flowers without a card attached. She will know its you and get the hint, she may even call you. THIS WORKS. Do nice things only on your terms and when you feel like it, not when she feels like it. Neediness and insecurity are your and every man's worst enemy.

Hey thanks alot.
That makes alot of sense. We have been together a long time and I dont think people can change their feelings that fast.
That post did make me feel a little better. It really did.

with sonic having an "anxiety problem" shes probably used to him up in her face all the time and needs to think things through....has she told you why it is over or is it a build up of things?

Well she said she just needs a break to think about things. She still loves me, but I do put alot of stress on her. I mean a lot. I have a recently new anxiety problem and that causes me to call her when she is not home from work on time. If she does not answere I call 100x till she answers. I know I shouldnt do that but it is so hard.

It also does not help that since being back from iraq, she is like the only friend I have. No really good friends to talk to. The ones I do talk to are not very suportive.

[Sunset]

awwww *hugs* give it time Sonic I just wrote a long list of advice and deleted it because its not going to help the way you feel. But my only advice I want to give you like people above have said give it time as hard as it may be, maybe send her some flowers, or in a couple days call her and if she dont anser just leave 1 message saying you just calling to see how she was and u hope to talk to her soon. As someone said above she loves you she is married to you.

[Ives]

It's probably not over with quite yet. Not the best desicion to marry early though.

[Jewbert]

>.<
All I can say, really, is that I hope she contacts you soon. You guys ARE still married, so I'm sure she will call you in due time. She's probably just really pissed off right now, or something along those lines. She may just be taking some time to think things over and cool off. I also think some kind of counseling would be a good idea.

I can't imagine how you're feeling though. If Chris were to do this to me I'd probably die. >.<

Anyways, sir, I hope things work out in the long run.

[foogie]

well........ I'm not trying to be an ass here, but at this age, it's in my opinion that anyone trying to get married at this point is still just like a little kid that wants to play house.... young marriages don't usually work, for the same reason why teen relationships almost never last for more than a few months. there are of course, exceptions to this, some people were just meant to be, and thats that.... but you and her I guess are just another one of those relationships that don't work out.

Breaking up might have been easier if you werent married, but still; it's just another thing in life to get over. Get back to your friends, go make some new ones, and find the girl you're really meant for.


in the meantime, i must have said this a dozen times to you already, so when the hell are you going to listen? GO SEE A THERAPIST!!!

[Black Flame]

Mmmm I'm sorry sonic. Don't lose hope yet, I'm sure it's not over. I don't have anything to add to the good(most of it) advice above, so I won't.

Good luck.

[Lawivido]

Dang. Sorry to hear. Keep your head up. Things'll work out in the end.

[phalkon]

dude sonic... i think it's something the army is doing, because me and my wife are going through a sort of separation too...

message me if you wanna talk bro

[GamerAsh]

I'm sorry to hear that man. I really am.

[iNextGenWarrior]

dude... I'm really sorry this happened to you... I mean I'm not quite on that level but I know how much that has to hurt... I mean your wife is supposed to be the one you LOVE without any doubts... So yeah it must be hard.

[Melchoire]

People don't usually make irrational decisions like that and stick with them. Just gives it some time and go watch a movie.

[Twilight]

perhaps you should move on and maybe find another person