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#51 8143FF763271

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Posted 15 August 2012 - 12:00 PM

No, he already stated various reasons. Accomplishment, fulfillment, self-worth. Admittedly, many of these are often accompanied by pleasure, but not necessarily. It's easy to think of counter-examples, which you seem unwilling to assume in an intellectually honest manner.

I can be happy and feel patriotic because my country won a war, even though I get no pleasure out of it. I can feel accomplished because I keep my kid out of an orphanage, even though I hate the lil fucker. Etc, etc.


I think you people just misunderstand pleasure... why would you be happy about your country winning a war if it didn't bring you pleasure? What's the logic in that? How is that even rational? If your country winning a war doesn't bring you pleasure, then why aren't you happy about some other country winning a war? Certainly, it will have the same effect on you as neither option feels good (i.e. bring pleasure).

And why would you be happy about being with someone you hate??? :S :S :S

The things you people are saying don't even make sense.

#52 iargue

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Posted 15 August 2012 - 12:48 PM

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I already noted this distinction earlier and called it comfort (i.e. abstaining from pain). Being comfortable somewhere in your life or, rather, being content or satisfied (what you define as "happiness") means that you have a regular supply of pleasure/avoidance of pain. Granted, if your wife or your kids didn't bring you pleasure or prevent pain, there'd be no reason to go to bed with a smile because you installed a fence for them. Or do you think slaves happily install fences for their slave owners? It always boils down to pleasure. We feel happiness on an individual basis, our happiness is our own. We experience it alone, just like we experience all sensations alone. Happiness, by definition, has to be something that feels good to us, so it has to involve pleasure regardless. What you define as happiness (comfort) without pleasure is ennui and misery.

Likewise, people who last 30 years in marriage just offer each other comfort. They may not want each other and may not provide significant pleasure to each other, but they have more pleasure together than they would have if they weren't together. Thus, they avoid pain.

All love fades. Faded love is just better than loneliness. All happiness is pleasure. People just exert pleasure from different sources.


Thanks for ignoring what I typed. If you continue to do this, then this debate is completely pointless and I will stop responding.

The scenario's that I provided distinctly goes against your attempt to refute what I had to say, specifically placing a fence in the ward. As I stated at the end. His toe hurt, his hands hurt, and his muscles were sore. He was not "comfortable" but he was happy. I feel sorry for you because you clearly have not experienced happiness in your life and that makes me sad. I want you to be happy, not just "abstained from pain".


I recently suffered a bout of depression, were I was completely and utterly unhappy with myself and with life. During that time I was never in any point, I had plenty of sources of pleasure. I had delicious food to eat, great video games to play, plenty of friends to hang out with, and I have had sex more then once during this period. Did any of that make me happy? Everything that you use to define what you call "Happiness/pleasure" occurred, and yet I was sad and depressed.

That is because you define happiness as a physical value and attribute. Despite me providing an direct real life example of having pleasure and being sad, you continue to follow through with the same policies, you continue to believe that pleasure immediately leads to happiness. I have again provided a situation were I had multiple sources of pleasure, ranging from physical to non physical, and was still not happy. All of the pleasure in the world can not make a person happy, if that person is denied a single thing that he wants.

And again, you completely ignore me and tell me that "All love fades" when I provided a clear, real life example of real love where people have been married thirty years and still love each other just as much. What you think is "love" is what people tell themselves is love out of fear of not being alone.


The reason why this argument is pointless, is because you have yet to experience happiness, and thus you hold on to an belief of what happiness really is without actually knowing anything about it. This is like a 13 year old trying to tell me that a breast feels like a bag of sand. If I had never felt one, I would agree with him, but I have felt one, and it sure as all hell doesn't feel like that.

Good day to you :)

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Posted 15 August 2012 - 01:42 PM

"I have defined happiness as deriving purely from pleasure, and my definition of pleasure is so wide-ranging as to be virtually meaningless."

Can't argue with that, because it's a stance designed to be logically insular.

#54 8143FF763271

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Posted 15 August 2012 - 04:21 PM

"I have defined happiness as deriving purely from pleasure, and my definition of pleasure is so wide-ranging as to be virtually meaningless."

Can't argue with that, because it's a stance designed to be logically insular.


This guy gets it. He may not agree with it, but he gets what I am saying. I am defining pleasure broadly, I define pleasure as all that feels good. How that is meaningless? I don't know.

It's not really controversial either, seeing that wiki has the same definition for it.

Pleasure describes the broad class of mental states that humans and other animals experience as positive, enjoyable, or worth seeking. It includes more specific mental states such as happiness, entertainment,enjoyment, ecstasy, and euphoria. In psychology, the pleasure principle describes pleasure as a positive feedback mechanism, motivating the organism to recreate in the future the situation which it has just found pleasurable. According to this theory, organisms are similarly motivated to avoid situations that have caused pain in the past.[

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Thanks for ignoring what I typed. If you continue to do this, then this debate is completely pointless and I will stop responding.

The scenario's that I provided distinctly goes against your attempt to refute what I had to say, specifically placing a fence in the ward. As I stated at the end. His toe hurt, his hands hurt, and his muscles were sore. He was not "comfortable" but he was happy. I feel sorry for you because you clearly have not experienced happiness in your life and that makes me sad. I want you to be happy, not just "abstained from pain".


Personally, I think you're the one that's disregarding my argument. Slaves experience all the thing you described but they're not happy about them. I think it's logical that they aren't happy about them. They have no reason to be. The person you described does, he likes doing things for the people he cares about or some corny bullshit but, for some reason, it's a pleasant sensation to him. Likewise, pleasure can exist with pain. You can eat ice cream while you have a broken arm. More similarly, you can work for money. You may not like working, but you're content about your work because you think the rewards are worth it.

I recently suffered a bout of depression, were I was completely and utterly unhappy with myself and with life. During that time I was never in any point, I had plenty of sources of pleasure. I had delicious food to eat, great video games to play, plenty of friends to hang out with, and I have had sex more then once during this period. Did any of that make me happy? Everything that you use to define what you call "Happiness/pleasure" occurred, and yet I was sad and depressed.


If there wasn't a source of pain in your life or discomfort, or if you don't have a source of pleasure today that you didn't have back then, then you probably have a neurological misbalance that doesn't allow you to respond normally to situations. Don't ask me.

That is because you define happiness as a physical value and attribute. Despite me providing an direct real life example of having pleasure and being sad, you continue to follow through with the same policies, you continue to believe that pleasure immediately leads to happiness. I have again provided a situation were I had multiple sources of pleasure, ranging from physical to non physical, and was still not happy. All of the pleasure in the world can not make a person happy, if that person is denied a single thing that he wants.


Happiness is physical. It's a sensation. It's a feeling. It occurs, then, neurologically. What, do you think happiness is some sort of paranormal thing? I think that unless something is wrong with people's brains, they have negative emotions when they have pain, and have happiness when they have pleasure. Sometimes we have pleasures that don't counter-act the pains of our lives. A crack addict gets plenty of pleasure, but he has no reason to define himself as happy seeing that his condition burdens him with a heavy amount of pain. Who knows? All I can say is that if you emotionally respond different to the same exact stimuli (i.e. you are happy now even though your life is exactly the same as it was when you were sad) then you probably have something wrong with you at the psychological level. If there are, however, different stimuli in your life making you be happy today... then you have sources of pleasure/have gotten rid of sources of pain. In a nutshell, you have either increased the amount of pleasure in your life or have gotten rid of displeasurable things.

Also, I don't believe that pleasure leads to happiness. I believe that all happiness is pleasure and that happiness is defined by pleasure. We can be sad and have pleasure, we can binge on ice cream after breaking up with an ex-girlfriend. We can have a pleasure, it won't take the sadness away (i.e. the fact that we generally feel bad).

And again, you completely ignore me and tell me that "All love fades" when I provided a clear, real life example of real love where people have been married thirty years and still love each other just as much. What you think is "love" is what people tell themselves is love out of fear of not being alone.


I think that any 30 year old marriage is maintained on fear of not being alone. Do you know why divorce rates were exponentially lower 50 years ago than they are today? Women didn't get divorce, out of fear of not having a source of income. Fear is a big determinant of why people do what they do. Fear is how we avoid pain. Long lasting relationships exist because they provide each other comfort. In 30 year old relationships, the lover becomes something like an air conditioner. We're used to it and we're certainly not thrilled by it, but we certainly want it to remain there because we don't like heat (pain).


The reason why this argument is pointless, is because you have yet to experience happiness, and thus you hold on to an belief of what happiness really is without actually knowing anything about it. This is like a 13 year old trying to tell me that a breast feels like a bag of sand. If I had never felt one, I would agree with him, but I have felt one, and it sure as all hell doesn't feel like that.

Good day to you :)


:rolleyes: I never thought breasts felt like bags of sand.

Edited by kami12, 15 August 2012 - 03:59 PM.


#55 iargue

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Posted 15 August 2012 - 05:14 PM

Personally, I think you're the one that's disregarding my argument. Slaves experience all the thing you described but they're not happy about them. I think it's logical that they aren't happy about them. They have no reason to be. The person you described does, he likes doing things for the people he cares about or some corny bullshit but, for some reason, it's a pleasant sensation to him. Likewise, pleasure can exist with pain. You can eat ice cream while you have a broken arm. More similarly, you can work for money. You may not like working, but you're content about your work because you think the rewards are worth it.


How did I ignore you argument? You keep stating things that my statement disproves. For instance, your slave example is in favour of my argument, because happiness exists in the same scenario for some people, and not for other.



If there wasn't a source of pain in your life or discomfort, or if you don't have a source of pleasure today that you didn't have back then, then you probably have a neurological misbalance that doesn't allow you to respond normally to situations. Don't ask me.


I happen to be in perfect health. I'm just okay with myself. I'm happy because I've learn to accept my life for what it is. Not because I got more money, or some new source of pleasure. but because I CHOOSE to be happy.


Happiness is physical. It's a sensation. It's a feeling. It occurs, then, neurologically. What, do you think happiness is some sort of paranormal thing? I think that unless something is wrong with people's brains, they have negative emotions when they have pain, and have happiness when they have pleasure. Sometimes we have pleasures that don't counter-act the pains of our lives. A crack addict gets plenty of pleasure, but he has no reason to define himself as happy seeing that his condition burdens him with a heavy amount of pain. Who knows? All I can say is that if you emotionally respond different to the same exact stimuli (i.e. you are happy now even though your life is exactly the same as it was when you were sad) then you probably have something wrong with you at the psychological level. If there are, however, different stimuli in your life making you be happy today... then you have sources of pleasure/have gotten rid of sources of pain. In a nutshell, you have either increased the amount of pleasure in your life or have gotten rid of displeasurable thing


Happiness is not physical. I quit reading there.

Also, I don't believe that pleasure leads to happiness. I believe that all happiness is pleasure and that happiness is defined by pleasure. We can be sad and have pleasure, we can binge on ice cream after breaking up with an ex-girlfriend. We can have a pleasure, it won't take the sadness away (i.e. the fact that we generally feel bad).


Of course Happiness is pleasure. Happiness is a positive sensation. it makes you feel good. But you do not have to experience pleasure to be happy, in fact, you can be happy WHILE experiencing pain.

Its the same thing as "All thumbs are fingers, but all fingers are not thumbs"

I think that any 30 year old marriage is maintained on fear of not being alone. Do you know why divorce rates were exponentially lower 50 years ago than they are today? Women didn't get divorce, out of fear of not having a source of income. Fear is a big determinant of why people do what they do. Fear is how we avoid pain. Long lasting relationships exist because they provide each other comfort. In 30 year old relationships, the lover becomes something like an air conditioner. We're used to it and we're certainly not thrilled by it, but we certainly want it to remain there because we don't like heat (pain).


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Posted 15 August 2012 - 05:25 PM

I'm pretty sure that if the concept and physical material of money were never created or devised, people would still have happiness. The fact that some people's happiness has become dependent on money does not account for the debate as a whole.

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Posted 15 August 2012 - 05:34 PM

Thought more about this...I'm personally very caught up in the "rat race." 10 yrs ago, I thought 30k/yr was awesome. Then, I thought 60K/yr was awesome. Then, 100k/yr, etc...whatever you get just isn't enough because it's in our nature to want more...especially with consumerism the way it is. There's always something better.

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Posted 15 August 2012 - 06:07 PM

Of course Happiness is pleasure. Happiness is a positive sensation. it makes you feel good. But you do not have to experience pleasure to be happy, in fact, you can be happy WHILE experiencing pain.


I'm just gonna leave this here and lol.

Derp. Pain iz da pain but u can experience pain without pain.

Edited by kami12, 15 August 2012 - 06:10 PM.


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Posted 15 August 2012 - 06:41 PM

I'm just gonna leave this here and lol.

Derp. Pain iz da pain but u can experience pain without pain.



People are happy feeling pain.

Did you forget about S&M? Bondage? etc...

#60 Kashi

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Posted 08 September 2012 - 09:42 PM

Money supports your happiness, but yes, you can be happy without it, it just takes you to "clarify" yourself. It seems like an utopian dream, I know, but it can be more than that, it can become real, maybe. Who knows. Try it by yourself, I have no answers for you.

#61 Choffy

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Posted 10 September 2012 - 12:44 PM

Do not think so ... Happiness is within you and you do not need money to be happy. Money alone is something material, one must know the spiritual search.

#62 breadbox101

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Posted 11 September 2012 - 06:01 PM

If you're resourceful enough, you don't actually need much money to survive. So the answer, I think, is no.

#63 infecthead

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Posted 13 September 2012 - 01:23 AM

Money buys happiness. There are other means of achieving a happy life, but money will always make people happy.

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Posted 25 January 2013 - 02:51 PM

Yes, for sure, but you must have good health too.

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Posted 27 January 2013 - 09:34 PM

In my opinion it's

 

1. Happiness

2. Health

 

and only then

 

3. Wealth or just plain simple money

 

as you can have health and/or wealth without being happy.   People tend to take those two for granted until circumstances change and one or both are diminished or lost.   Happiness is the most important of the three, but you will still need at least a bit of the other two or your life will be so miserable it'll be damned difficult to summon some cheer, let alone feel happy.

 

I'm not taking into account other things such as love, as you can love someone and still be unhappy, so this is my simplified top 3.



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Posted 28 January 2013 - 11:44 AM

Boy am I glad that idiot is gone :rolleyes:

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Posted 28 January 2013 - 12:28 PM

Boy am I glad that idiot is gone :rolleyes:



Now if only some of the other ones would follow his lead.  :rolleyes:



#68 ajk11195

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Posted 28 January 2013 - 11:54 PM

Money can bring happiness, but happiness is not lasting.



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Posted 29 January 2013 - 08:08 AM

Neither is money, money is quickly gone. I believe that happiness can't be bought. I believe this because even though I was poor, very poor, I was still happy and it wasn't money that brought about that happiness. For me, my happiness has stemmed from the company of my friends and family, simple things in nature such as the way an Assassin Beetle stalks its prey, and even the way the sky looks when the moon is shrouded by a cloud. Money doesn't buy any of those things and thus money does not equal happiness.



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Posted 29 January 2013 - 07:52 PM

All that proves is, the already known, money does not guarantee happiness and a lack of money does not guarantee unhappiness. Duh.



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Posted 24 February 2013 - 12:02 PM

We were all born to get money and live ... but isn't necessary have a lot of money for be happy :)



#72 imagina

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Posted 25 March 2013 - 01:18 PM

IIRC there was some study done which suggested an optimal amount of wealth, in regards to happiness. Can't seem to find it though  :(




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