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[Nymh]

Nymh, do not be expecting a disproportionate financial input into your gifts.

Likewise, though you already know that I don't.

[Yung]

Since you decided to give a life story, I assume we are invited to comment:
no wonder you have 3 kids at 23.

To be fair I'm actually surprised I don't have more...

[Boggart]

I've read all this, and mostly, it's not so much I "judge" others (although I do) for being easy;

but I've been raised Mennonite (basically) where sex before marriage is a sin. I obviously don't participate in that (all my friends joke that I"m going to hell) but regardless, the people I was raised with valued the symbolic idea of sex very highly.

So those who just give up sex, which to me is rather important, it seems like you have low self-respect for yourself. And there's more important things in life than searching for sex. That's just my opinion.

My sex number is the highest in my friendship circle, because about 90% are still virgins (and there're like 15 girls and 2 guys in my friendship circle)

[8143FF763271]

I've read all this, and mostly, it's not so much I "judge" others (although I do) for being easy;

but I've been raised Mennonite (basically) where sex before marriage is a sin. I obviously don't participate in that (all my friends joke that I"m going to hell) but regardless, the people I was raised with valued the symbolic idea of sex very highly.

So those who just give up sex, which to me is rather important, it seems like you have low self-respect for yourself. And there's more important things in life than searching for sex. That's just my opinion.

My sex number is the highest in my friendship circle, because about 90% are still virgins (and there're like 15 girls and 2 guys in my friendship circle)

I think that if we renounce politics and focus on the dynamics of sex within our society, the self-respect thing is easy to see. Personally, for me whether or not the person has "self-respect" depends on the logic she/he adopts when having sex. When a woman rejects a patriarchal mode of logic and refuses to use her sex as a tool of bargain in order to use it as a means to her pleasure- I respect that. I respect that more than I respect any "prudent" girl out there, but it's rare. Even educated women have a hard time separating their sex from its place in society.

More often than not, a slut is a girl with low self esteem who's eager and ready to bargain her sex because she feels its her only (and cheap) tool with which to attain the affect of a male. According to our sexual conventions, sex is the last thing that a woman gives up and only after observing a certain degree of commitment, worthiness, and sacrifice on part her of partner. When a woman is willing to give up her last resort for a little bit of your time, hoping that you will answer her texts the next morning and starts crying when she realizes she won't ever see you again- we're talking about a creature with absolutely no sense of self-worth.

Edited by Khaligula, 27 September 2012 - 11:12 AM.

[NapisaurusRex]

Sure, that's one opinion, but if I find out someone has slept with 40 people, I'd be intimidated/scared to ever be with them.

That's why you shouldn't tell people how many people you've slept with. It just causes problems.

Since you decided to give a life story, I assume we are invited to comment:
no wonder you have 3 kids at 23.

To be fair, one of them is solely mine.

Also, I think a slut is someone who acts skanky, whether they're male or female or actually have sex at all.

Edited by Napiform, 27 September 2012 - 02:41 PM.

[luvsmyncis]

The concept of a nice girl is an act historically put up by women in order to inflate the price of their vagina in a society that systematically restricted them from other means to their sustenance than sexual bargains with men.

I wonder if there is a way to find out the value of my inflated vagina. *thinks thoughtfully*
Now that this thread is in a section he cannot access, I guess I'll never know.

[infecthead]

I think a person is "slutty" if they value sex over a relationship. There's nothing wrong with that, in my opinion, however be prepared as that's what society will label you as.

[Bazzel]

In my opinion

A slut is someone who sleeps with 5 people in one week. Someone who meets someone for the first time and within an hour their in some shabby public toilet going at it.
I have a friend Shes 24 slept with 122 guys, and now wonders why none of the boys in town look her way. She says im not that girl no more.. Well im sorry to say once labelled a slut theres no going back.. your just a dried up slut who no longer can get laid. But in saying all this, I know why she sleeps around like she does, Its so she feels wanted, even if its for 5 minutes. She was with the same guy for 7 years and cheated on him weekly, so this could also be boredom? As for those who see her as experienced etc... Every guy shes had encounters with have said shes like a sack of potatoes.. just lays and does nothing.

I was raised to think about my dignity, Each person you have sex with you give part of your self away too, I have never had a one night stand and never slept with anyone I havent been dating for a few months. I dont want to be like my friend (above) and I hate it that when im out with her people assume im like her.
I can count the amount of people ive been with on less than one hand, so I may sound inexperienced... but Ive never had any complaints, If anything ive been described as a rollercoaster But I believe this is because my self and my first ever boyfriend made a "to do" list and went for it.

My brother is a man slut, He has been with the same girl for 10 years, (now 30) when he was 16 he had his first child, Then another with someone else at 18 and another 2 with 2 other women at 19, then go with his current girl, over the next 4 years came 6 more children all with different mums, then came his son with his girl friend, then following another 5 over then next 3 years (again all different woman) and then another son with his girlfriend and another 1 after him again another woman. So In total he has 16 children and only 2 have the same mum and only 3 know about each other. So what type of guy does that make him? and what type of women does it make the mothers?

So In a nut shell.. in my eyes. A slut is someone who has no self respect what so ever, Whether they slept with 5 people or 500, it comes down to whether they respected their body enough to know the person first or just drop their pants to one another.

Hmmm, I believe that women/men should be allowed to do what they please with their own body.
However, it's when emotions are involved and people are getting hurt that I lose respect for said person.

Sex doesn't have to have strings attached. If the person is using their partners emotions/feelings/love for them just to have sex, and then ultimately hurts them by having relations with someone else, then I classify it as slutty. At the point when people begin getting hurt and you are intentionally doing so for your own pleasure, that's when I think you're just an ugly person.

I agree. If you and the partner agree no strings attached sex and respect the other person and their body then this is fine in my eyes.

If your sleeping with someone who is in a relationship and your the bit on the side, then thats a different story and if your the person thats doing the cheating, then you need to sort your self out as your nothing but selfish and obviously have no respect.

[Frizzle]

^needs to get laid

[Mishelle]

I don't care about other people's sex lives, I'm too busy having sex. All that's important to me is that they use protection.