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[luvsmyncis]

I said he was right. Why do you have to rub it in like that?

 

Better he rubs it in like that than rubbing one out. Too messy.

[Nymh]

What if she had an ex-boyfriend who was good looking, had fabulous hair and a more impressive Pokemon figurine collection than you?

Yeah that makes up for the premature ejaculation.

Scarily accurate.

[Boggart]

This thread is just one giant clusterfuck of crazy.

Clusterfucking is cheating. And messy.

[NapisaurusRex]

FML

 

Ever read these things?

[Sweeney]

FML

 

Ever read these things?

 

I prefer GMH.

[kittycat]

Sleep or cuddle together

Holding hands while in public

Watch porn together

She sends nudes or suggestive photos to him (sexy outfits, girl with boyfriend POV)

 

 

wouldn't care about any of these personally 

[Neodaq]

Besides the holding hands one, it's all cheating, IMO.

[Lambda]

Holding hands and sleeping/cuddling together are the only ones I'd consider even a little acceptable, but I'm old school monogamous and don't have the emotional capacity to handle that kind of thing, haha. Honestly, unless you have an open relationship, I think they're all kind of questionable. As long as you're honest with your partner and they're all right with it, just do your thing.

[seadream454]

To me what they are doing already have crossed the line.

[Dan]

Personally, I couldn't handle any of those. 

 

I would hope I'm the only person my SO would want to do any of those things with.

[seraph]

Wat, would instantly dump for any of those. All cheating. If you want to fuck and do everything  else relationship related with your friend date him.

[cluttergum]

Depends on the individuals and their own perceptions. If only two people in the party are okay with it, but there was a clear understanding of an 'exclusive' relationship, that's shady. If all of them are happy sharing the love, be a hippie and do so.

I usually prefer to stay single in order to have fun with my best friend and go out on dates. ;P No commitment = no valid justification to be angry.

Or go with Beyonce's motto. Something about a ring on someone's finger. Even then, some married people (I know plenty) enjoy going outside the bounds of 'socially acceptable' marriage restrictions.

[luvsmyncis]

*adds "Going out for a smoothie" to the cheaters list*

[Sweeney]

Processed fruit products are very sexually charged.

[luvsmyncis]

Processed fruit products are very sexually charged.

 

Especially if there's three fruits in there.

[willy101]

i like how both yolo and am i screwed are tagged xD

 

well now that I have a gf it's a very real concerns

 

my rules: no exes (not that she wants to see them anyway)

 

her rule: no girls xD yeah right.

[luvsmyncis]

my rules: no exes (not that she wants to see them anyway)
her rule: no girls xD yeah right.

So you plan to cheat on her already?

[Elindoril]

So you plan to cheat on her already?

 

He considers himself a free agent until a contract has been established.

[NapisaurusRex]

He considers himself a free agent until a contract has been established.

What constitutes a contract?

[Elindoril]

What constitutes a contract?

I was thinking marriage, but I don't think even that would hold people back.

[NapisaurusRex]

I was thinking marriage, but I don't think even that would hold people back.

That's what I was wondering, lol. 

[Jiayu]

The definition of cheating differs from person to person. I honestly think many people would be happier in open relationships but it's still seen as some sort of "compromise" done in lieu of officially breaking up.

[Veini]

I would not like that. It sounds like there'd be something mentally wrong with my SO if they were to do that. That's just creepy. Obviously, one of them is doing this (or both) because they like that, even if they don't realize it. They don't want "practice", and I'd break up with them at holding hands.

[giraffe]

Lots of stuff to break down here.  I'm in a semi-open relationship.  My SO and I have sex with other people, both together and separately.  I'm not in a relationship because I want to have sex with my SO.  I'm in a relationship because my SO is absolutely amazing and we like talking and being together.  Yes, I enjoy sex with my SO.  I enjoy sex with other people.  Having sex with other people does not change how I feel about my SO.

That being said, the "best friend" part puts it in murky water for me.  I don't care about the sex in and of itself, but I'm concerned about the emotional attachment implied here.  I'm not averse to the idea of a polyamorous relationship per se, but I've never been in a situation to put it in practice myself.  I'm not sure if that would inspire more jealousy in me or not.  I'd be willing to see how it worked out, but my SO says no to that so it's kind of a moot point for now.
 

Obviously you don't own anyone, but knowing that you are theirs and and theirs alone is a great feeling. You're beta, the type of guy that will just let another man walk all over him. Unless of course you sit behind a keyboard, and act tough, then all of the sudden you're a champion but I could never see you doing such a thing.

 

If you don't get jealous and/or concerned, you don't really care about the bond between you and the other person.

To be honest, being able to trust your partner and knowing s/he trusts you too doesn't make either of you "beta" at all   And wouldn't feeling jealousy make you more of a uh beta than anything?

 SO MUCH THIS.  I'm not threatened by the idea of my SO wanting sex with someone else.  I want sex with other people all the time.  I know I'm still a sexy beast.  But even if I were, I trust my SO.  If I don't trust someone about things like this, why the hell would I want to be in a relationship with that person?  If you don't like sex with other people but you're super-jealous and don't trust your partner, who's the one with intimacy problems in their relationship?  I don't think it's me.

 

What if, and only if, the woman cares not for physical comfort or satisfaction and instead likes the mental and psychological gratification of the relationship?

 

Not everyone bases a relationship solely on the physical benefits.

<3

 

 

her rule: no girls xD yeah right.

So you plan to cheat on her already?

I thought he was disagreeing with the implied "no girls (but boys are okay)" and saying he wouldn't have sex with a guy.

[Resin]

Zzzz Its All Cheating I would say >.>