If I'm reading your arguments correctly, what you're essentially arguing is that femininity is bad because the traits you associate with femininity aren't traits that develop under the normal means that other personality traits develop under, whether those traits be inherent (genetic) or developed under social influences that don't include patriachal ones.
Femininity would be defined by passivity, succorance, sensitivity, empathy, naivette, weakness, "being emotional", being "intuitive", submissiveness, compassion, and gentleness.
So if femininity is unnatural, are you arguing that women are, by nature, active, cold, lacking in empathy, wise, strong, unemotional, disintuitive, dominant, lacking in compassion, and rough? Are these the "normal" traits that patriarchy has conditioned us out of?
Is it natural or unnatural for a man to possess these (feminine) traits?