I can only wish there was a way for you to get raped so you would understand how it feels.
I wouldn't necessarily wish death upon a rapist but that doesn't make it "okay" by any fucking means.. but a child rapist yes. If someone raped my two year old son or my 9 month old son.
I would want them dead.
I've been raped. No I wasn't "asking for it". I wasn't drunk. I screamed, and I fought..
It happened regardless because I was weaker than him.
I don't wish him dead, but I definitely do think it was a big fucking deal and he deserves to be in jail.
I felt like I lost control, and my body betrayed me. It was the scariest thing that has ever happened to me.
You don't understand because you're a fucking douchebag, end of.
Edit: Would it be a big deal if some jacked man pinned you down and tore out your asshole Kami? And then finished while he was still inside you? I don't care how graphic it is, I want you to picture that happening to you. Would you still be saying it's not that bad?
I don't care about your sentimentalist culturally inflected upon approach to things. I am giving an etic view of a phenomena (that people like you care so much about rape) and tracing it back to its cultural institutions. My point: In an ideal society, it wouldn't be treated as such a horrible crime. I don't expect you to be able to look at things etically for obvious reasons, none of which I mention because it's against the TOS to insult people on their intellect.
Moving on to the body of the argument, rape (in an ideal society) deserves to be treated for the physical assault that it would be. To use your question as an example, it would be a big deal if some jacked man pinned me down and tore out my asshole because of two things:
A) It hurts, it is against my will, and other typical problems with assault.
B) There's a
taboo towards anal sex between males in our society that would make the experience traumatic. Since 'no one' is supposed to touch my asshole and my 'asshole' is something that would only have to be shared in the most intimate (and homosexual) of relationships, then I would make a big deal out of it being violated.
To better clarify how responses to rape are both physically and culturally determined: Take a look at Muslim and Indian girls. They cannot marry if they're not virgins, so they have a tendency to want to maintain their vaginal virginity at all costs. In order to preserve their virginity, they will engage in anal sex and oral sex but not in conventional genital intercourse. You ask a Muslim girl if she'd prefer to get raped anally or vaginally, and she'd opt for an anal violation. A Western girl probably would not, as it signifies more pain. Why would they have different preferences? Because the Muslim girl is dealing with a stronger cultural restriction and taboo on vaginal sex.
My point is that in a neutral society without taboos on sexuality, B wouldn't exist. The gravity of a rape would only be measured on A. The only reason some people consider rape worse than, say, getting stabbed is because of the cultural weight that we add to sexuality. Nothing more, nothing less.
Edited by kami12, 22 August 2012 - 05:01 AM.